Silat al-Rahm

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As a child, my deceased father severed ties with his family, so I am unaware if they are alive or where they might be. My maternal aunts also distanced themselves from us, and I do not know their status. What are my obligations concerning Silat al-Rahm?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 12 months ago

You and every Muslim is obliged to search and contact his relatives and treat them nicely even if they had bad history with your parents or even with you. We must treat all our relatives in a nice way.

Wassalam.

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Apostasy (Irtidad) . Silat al-Rahm

I have a close relative who has left Islam, and I am concerned that maintaining contact may imply my acceptance of their beliefs. Should I continue to engage with them?

1. You should never show him or make him feel that what he has committed is accepted by you.
2. Keep a low profile level with him to be able to advise him now and in the future.

3. Ask him to open his mind to debate and try to send him some useful notes and questions regarding faith and life and hereafter etc.

Wassalam.

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Mother . Domestic violence . Silat al-Rahm

What does Islam teach regarding a situation where a 24-year-old hits their mother back after she hits and verbally abuses them?

Hurting any of the parents is one of most dangerous major sins which lead to hellfire. If your parents hit you or verbally abuse you, you must tolerate and never do anything which can hurt their feelings. Allah is Angry with any one who makes his parents or any of them, unhappy.

Wassalam.

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Silat al-Rahm

Can damaged relationships be repaired and restored to their former state after being affected for several years?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 1 year ago

Sometimes people change over time, or due to life events, and this leads to reconciliation. This is especially the case with blood relatives, who have a bond whether or not they are on good terms, and close friends who fell apart.

In marriage breakdowns, people can also resolve their differences and get back together. However, sometimes, when that happens, they find that they have both changed and are no longer suitable for each other.

Anyway, it is good to make peace with people (as long as there are no extenuating circumstances, eg concern over safety, continued misbehavior, etc) and to let them know the door is open to reconciliation, if they ever want it. Allah guides people's hearts, and you can also pray for reconciliation. However, in cases of marriage breakdowns, it is better not to hold out too much hope; you can pray but you should also accept the reality as it is and go on with your life.

Sometimes it is only after a person passes away that the other person is able to forgive them or let go of things. All mu'mineen reconcile with each other in jannah.

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Silat al-Rahm

What are the commands, virtues, and benefits of Silatur Rahem with neighbors, family, and friends according to the perspective of the Ahlulbayt? Is it true that those benefits include a long life, good fortune, and closeness to Allah?

Mateen Charbonneau, Sheikh Mateen Joshua Charbonneau achieved a certificate from Harvard University in Islamic Studies. He undertook Howza classes under esteemed scholars since 2013 and has been teaching at Imam Mahdi... Answered 2 years ago

Yes that is true

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Silat al-Rahm

What is the ruling on maintaining relationships (Sileh-Rahmi) if you fear harm from a relative, especially if they have previously caused harm through malicious actions or hatred?

We must maintain good relationship with all our relatives even if the had harmed us or can harm us. Islam does not allow cutting ties with any relative even if he is a bad person. We must be careful while dealing with those who can harm us, but still we must maintain any level of relationship with them

Wassalam.

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Alcohol . Silat al-Rahm

I understand it is not permissible in Islam to cut off relation with any relatives, but what if that relative is an unbeliever, has alcohol in their homes, and at times would even disrespect our belief and our Imams?

It is not allowed to cut off relation with any of our relatives even if they are bad as far as we don't support them in their bad acts. We must keep up with every relative.

Wassalam.

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Silat al-Rahm

In matters of worldly relationships, is it allowed to cut off a first-degree relative who physically harassed you but claims they were trying to teach you about the world, and later made further attempts to harass you?

It is not permissible in Islam to cut off relation with any relative even if they insulted or harmed you. You must keep the usual relationship with all you good and bad relatives with out encouraging bad.

Wassalam.

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Wife . Parents . Marriage . Silat al-Rahm

My wife dislikes my parents due to the problems they caused in our marriage and she is demanding from me to cut ties with my parents. Is it allowed in Islam?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

It is very unfortunate that your wife is holding onto a grudge, especially towards her parent-in-laws, which is not good and will affect her relationship with you as well. Whatever happened, and if they were right or wrong, both sides should think greater than that and focus on building good ties with each other.

Her demanding you to cut ties is also very unethical and haram as well, and you must not accomodate to that as well.
She must learn to forgive and forget, and respect elders, and forcing someone to cut ties with parents is gravely wrong and a major sin.

And Allah knows best.

Wife . Parents . Marriage . Silat al-Rahm

My wife dislikes my parents due to the problems they caused in our marriage and she is demanding from me to cut ties with my parents. Is it allowed in Islam?

It is absolutely forbidden in Islam to cut ties with your parents and this sin is one of the most dangerous major sins which has disastrous results in this life and hereafter. Never listen to any one who tell you to be away from your parents because this is what Shaitan wants you to do in order to be with Shaitan against Allah and against your parents. Whatever your parents did or still do which you don't like, you must be very nice to them even if they were unbelievers.

Wassalam.

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Sin . Silat al-Rahm

I want to distance myself from some of my relatives who engage in sinful behavior, but I don't want to completely cut ties. Should I consider their feelings in this regard as they are sure to notice?

Don't cut ties with any of your relatives even if he is a sinner. Cutting ties with any relative is a sinful act. Don't share nor encourage or approve their sinful acts with keeping your relation with them as your relatives.

Wassalam.

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Mahram . Silat al-Rahm

What is the appropriate way and applicable boundaries to maintain Silat ar-Rahm with non-Mahram relatives?

Hijab rules must be fully observed while meeting or talking to non-Mahram relatives. Islamic rules for non-Mahram are the same whether relative or not despite culture in some societies which do not follow Islam. Muslim should keep Silat Al-Rahim with all his/ her relatives with observing Islamic rules of Hijab.

Wassalam.