How can I navigate the situation where a Muslim guy I met in college, with whom I have a good relationship, is hesitant to marry me solely because I am a victim of rape? What steps can I take to address this issue?
How can I navigate the situation where a Muslim guy I met in college, with whom I have a good relationship, is hesitant to marry me solely because I am a victim of rape? What steps can I take to address this issue?
Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 2 years ago
I am sorry to hear about your situation.
I wanted to add that it would not be a good thing if, after the marriage, the man holds onto this idea and becomes obsessed with it or brings it up in every argument or uses it as an excuse for other behaviour. You have already suffered and don't need someone to make you continue to suffer for the rest of your life. Plus, you deserve someone who will appreciate you for all you are, not someone who is having hesitations! Perhaps he will mature later in life, since, when we judge people unfairly, life has a way of teaching us lessons.
Meanwhile, there are other fish in the sea!
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