Parents

A parent is a caregiver of the offspring in their own species. In humans, a parent is the caretaker of a child (where "child" refers to offspring, not necessarily age). A biological parent is a person whose gamete resulted in a child, a male through the sperm, and a female through the ovum.

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Husband . Wife . Parents . Marriage

Is there a concept of Rukhsati in Islam after Nikah where the husband has to bring the wife home with the permission of his wife’s parents?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 5 years ago

Marriage bond between man and woman is established by 'Aqd of Nikah which is the Islamic contract of marriage. The time when both start living together as husband and wife is called in Urdu Rukhsati and in Arabic of today Zafaaf. Parents of the wife are not allowed to stop or delay letting her go to her husband.

Wassalam.

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Family . Sunni . Parents . Engagement . Sunni-Shi'a . Marriage

My fiance has become Shia though his family still remains Sunni. We would like to have our Nikah done according to both ways for the pleasure of our parents. Can we perform two Nikahs in one day?

First Valid Nikah will establish the marriage bond, while the other Nikah will be just for show and will not add on the valid Nikah.
It is permissible to do the second Nikah for showing people.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Hate . Conversion to Islam . Faith (Iman) . Secrecy

I am 17, turning 18 soon, and still live with my parents. I want to convert to the Islamic faith but my parents hate the idea of me even thinking about it. Can I still convert in secret? If not, what should I do?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 5 years ago

You have the choice to convert in secret, or to convert and tell them.

What is best to do really depends on your situation and on your relationship with your parents. If you have a close relationship, and they would be hurt if you don't tell them, or if they found out by accident, it might be good to tell them sooner rather than later. If you think it would just cause problems for yourself, needlessly hurt them, or endanger you (for instance, put you at risk of being kicked out), then maybe it is better to wait.

If you think you will be living a more independent life soon (for instance, living on campus at a university, or working and living on your own), it might not hurt to wait and tell them when you have more control over your life.

However, eventually you will (probably) have to deal with it. Although it might cause conflict and tension in the beginning, the best-case scenario to hope for is that it could eventually lead to mutual understanding. The real question here is when to go through that, and that is something you have to decide for yourself.

Also, keep in mind that it is difficult to keep secrets, and people often sense what we are hiding or find out accidentally.

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Parents . Christianity . Conversion to Islam

For my birthday, my parents have given me a bracelet with the cross for Christianity. They don’t know that I have become a Muslim. What do I do if I cannot take it off without them noticing it?

You should try your best not to embarrass your parents and try to be more kind to them as you are a Muslim, more than before.

You can wear that bracelet in front of them but not in public as it might give a wrong message to others.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Children . Prophet Ya'qub . Prophet Yusuf

We often hear that parents must treat their children equally. If it is so, then why had Prophet Yaqub's (as) sons felt that he preferred Yusuf (as) over them?

Prophet Yaqoub (AS) was treating all his children equally but some of them felt jealous of Yousuf who appointed by Allah (SWT) as a Prophet. The fault was from those sons and never from Yaqoub who did not discriminate at all but was always just and kind to all of them.

The bad feelings and jealousy of these sons lead them to commit the crime which they committed against their own brother Yousuf.

Wassalam.

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Parents

Is it permissible for me to respectfully ask one of my parents to apologize to my friend who they have wronged?

No, you are not allowed to ask them to apologize to your friend because that will naturally hurt their feelings, and hurting the feeling of any of your parents is a sinful act even if they did something which you think wrong.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Divorce

My parents are getting a divorce and I have been crying for days as a result. How should I cope with it?

Life is full of tests. This unpleasant situation can be a test for your parents and you and other family members.

1. Try your best to talk very nicely to them and if you know respected persons who might have an effect on them, then try to request them to intervene.

2. Try to minimize the gap between them and request then not to mention bad things of other party.

3. Try to remind each of them about the good points of the other and the good times they had in their life together.

4. You are allowed to tell each of them stories about the love that he or she has in the heart of the other party. Islam gives big importance to efforts to make differing persons patch up. The Hadeeth says: Removing the rift between differing persons is more important than all the recommended prayers and fastings.

5. If they feel that there is no way for them but divorce, then try to minimize the damage as much as you can and try to face the situation with realistic attitude depending on the help of Allah who says in Quran about similar divorce cases (And if the separate from one another, Allah will grant each of them from his grace)(4:130).

Wassalam.

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Parents . Marriage . Conversion to Islam

I am a Bengali Muslim woman. I want to marry a man who is currently converting to Islam. However my sisters tell me that I cannot marry him because he is not Bengali and that my parents would never accept him. What should I do?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 6 years ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

Your sisters are unfortunately giving opinions which contradict Islam. You may marry any suitable believer regardless of his race. You should try to convince your parents to meet the person and remind them that Islam doesn’t discriminate based on race.

May Allah grant you success

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Istikhara . Marriage . Parents

Can a parent do an Istikhara regarding their children's marriage without their knowledge and then encourage or discourage a potential match accordingly?

The Istikhara binds or guides the person who did it not others. It can be possible that the parents want guidance on the future of a proposed marriage through Istikhara, but that is for them.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Coronaviruses

Can you go against your parents if they forbid you to volunteer helping others in this pandemic?

No, you can not go against your parents for such reason. They might have some reason or concerns which related to your safety and they do not want you to risk your health.
You need to keep the full respect for your parents even if they have a different opinion. You may talk to them very politely to understand the reasons of the opinion or to try to explain your view point.
It is very good to help others specially in hard times but we can not obey Allah by committing the sin of hurting or disrespecting our parents.
Wassalam.

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Wife . Husband . Parents . Employment

Can a wife live away from her husband to live with her parents and work there as a teacher in a school because she could not find a job near her husband's place?

Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb, Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb has a BA in Law from Guilan University, Iran and has also undertaken Hawzah studies in Qom. He used to be a Cultural Affairs director of Ethics Group of Al-Mustafa... Answered 6 years ago

It is an obligation for a woman to live where her husband has decided unless she has mentioned in the conditions of the marriage contract that the place of residence is up to her.
And a woman can not leave the house without her husband's permission.
So if the husband is ok with all this situation then it's ok for her

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Parents . Sunni . Marriage

I am 30 and my parents have rejected all the proposals I got till now for silly reasons. I now like a person but they have rejected him because he is Sunni. Should I get married without my parents' permission?

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alakyom, Please refer to the following answer:

https://www.al-islam.org/ask/is-it-sinful-for-a-girl-to-marry-without-the-permission-of-her-parents

Also it is not recommended for you to marry a person from the sect who refers to itself as Ahlus Sunnah unless you can make him Shia. It could also be haram if it would cause you misguidance too. It is better to marry a spouse who will raise any potential children on the love of Ahlul Bayt (peace be upon them) and disassociation of their enemies. I have met many people of both mixed Shia-Sunni parents and in most cases, the children take after the father in the Sunni way or become confused.

In this case, your parents could be rejecting the person for the above reasons. And when you say 'you like' such a person, you must ask yourself what this is based on? Is it due to over stepping the Islamic boundaries such as how he looks, or is it due to his religion? If it is for the wrong reasons, then one should not pursue such a marriage especially if it may be based more off lust or wordly reasons.

May Allah grant you success

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