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190211

Marriage . Divorce . Children . Mother . Brother . Time . Domestic violence . Guilt . Hell

After enduring 20 years in an abusive marriage, that ended in divorce, and raising my children alone, why do I still feel guilty and fear hell, especially when my mother and brother don't accept me and consistently make me feel bad whenever we interact?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 1 year ago

I am sorry to hear about your situation.

This is probably due to the psychology of being in an abusive marriage; possibly the abuser always said directly or indirectly that whatever happens is your fault. (Unfortunately, other people in society will also blame the woman, even if the husband is responsible for his choices.)

Also, in life, we internalize an internal judgmental voice (like a "parent") which judges us based on the social norms that we absorb from other people. This inner voice will continue to judge us even if those people are no longer around (and, in this case, it sounds like there are people who may still be actively reinforcing these ideas).

Many Muslim women, especially in our generation and above, internalized a voice that said that being a good Muslim woman means being married and having children, and a woman who gets divorced is bad. This idea is more about social expectations (or wanting the security of a marriage for a daughter) rather than Allah or faith.

However, it is common for Muslim women who grew up around these ideas to deal with guilt after divorce, and it can take time to revise one's ideas about what is genuinely important before Allah and in the next life and offload social expectations that no longer serve us.

Sometimes this is also a way of processing trauma as well.

In all these cases, probably the best way to handle it is through qualified psychological counselling/therapy as well as reflection on what is really important in matters of faith. Sometimes, just identifying the issue is a step forward.

Wishing you the best!

189760

Time . Fajr

If the sunrise time for a location is listed as 6:40 AM on Google, when would Fajr time conclude? Would it finish precisely at 6:40 AM?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

Fajr Prayer must be performed from Fajr time till seconds before sunrise. In your question, Fajr Prayer must be performed completely few seconds before sunrise.

Wassalam,

188418

Time . Maghrib . Sawm (Fasting) . Adhan . Iftar . Kaffara

Is it correct to break my fast at the time of Adhaan or after I pray Maghrib? If this practice is wrong, do I need to perform any expiation or repeat all my fasts?

It is allowed to break your fast at the time of Adhaan of Maghrib. Although it is recommended to pray before breaking your fast. Recommended is not obligatory. You don’t need to repeat any fast.

Wassalam.

187307

Qadha . Fajr . Time . Salah (Prayers) . Salatul Layl

Would it be more beneficial to prioritize completing my missed Qadha prayers over performing Salat al-Layl, considering that I currently make up for them by praying one Qadha Fajr Salah and another Qadha Salah daily?

The reward of performing Qadha Prayer is greater than performing recommended prayers. No doubt, performing both is much better, but if you have no other option but perform either Qadha or recommended prayer,b then Qadha is first because it is obligatory.

Wassalam.

183725

Umrah . Time . Ihram . Hajj . Salam alaikum . God (Allah) . Contact Lenses

Can contact lenses be worn during the state of Ihram?

If the contact lenses are purely for medical reason and not for beautification, then it will be allowed during the state of Ihraam. If it was for looking more beautiful or to make your eyes look nice,then it not allowed during Ihraam.

Wassalam.

145396

Face . Time . Prostration (sujud)

When getting up from prostration (Sujud), should someone lift their face first or lift both their hands and face together at the same time?

Usually, we lift our face first then our hands. You can chose what suits you.
'Wassalam.

152421

Marriage . Walima . Husband . Wife . Time . Consummation

Is it necessary for marriage to be consummated before the Walima ceremony? Can a husband and wife delay consummation after the Nikkah and Walima by a few days?

Walima or wedding ceremony is not a condition in consummating the marriage as far as the Nikah has been properly recited between them. Husband and wife are free to consummate their marriage or delay as they wish. Husband should not force his wife on consummating the marriage if she has a valid reason to delay that like health reason. If she is passing her menstrual cycle, sexual intercourse with be not allowed during menstruation. If there is no valid reason to delay and the husband needs to consummate the marriage, his wife should not refuse or delay.

When both of them are happy to delay consummating the marriage, there are free to do that.

Wassalam.

182891

Ghusl . Time . Tayammum . Salah (Prayers)

If a person chooses to perform Ghusl when the time for prayer is short and Tayammum should have been done, is the Ghusl invalid?

Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb, Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb has a BA in Law from Guilan University, Iran and has also undertaken Hawzah studies in Qom. He used to be a Cultural Affairs director of Ethics Group of Al-Mustafa... Answered 1 year ago

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah
The Ghusl is valid but he has done a sin letting the prayer become Qadha.

182430

Time . Asr . Salah (Prayers) . Combining Prayers

When combining prayers like Dhur and Asr, is it more preferable to pray them both at the Dhur time, closer to the Asr time, or somewhere in between?

It is recommended to perform Dhuhr Prayer immediately after midday (Zawaal) with out any delay. After performing Dhuhr Prayer, performing ASR Prayer is optional between performing ASR after performing the Dhuhr Prayer or waiting till the shadow becomes two sevenths.

Wassalam.

182370

Time . Friendship . Oath . Vow

What steps should I take to seek forgiveness for the times when I made false statements, either by taking Qasam or saying wAllah, out of embarrassment or to maintain a friendship?

Making a False statement by Qasam or oath or saying Wallah, is a major sin. It is called in the Hadeeth ( Al-Yameen al-Faajirah Al-Ghamoos) (The sinful oath which immerses the liar in the fire).

Seeking forgiveness needs: 1. Giving back the right of any one who was been wronged by this false statements and making him pardon you from his heart.

2. Repenting and feeling sad for what you committed.

3. Firm decision not to do it again.

4. Seeking forgiveness from Allah (SWT) day and night.

Wassalam.

181288

Tashahhud . Time . Salam alaikum . Du'a (Supplication)

Is it correct that there is a period between Tashahhud and Salam during which Dua is accepted? If so, is it allowed to do a lengthy Dua of around 5 minutes at this time or is it more preferable to keep it brief?

There is no specific period between Tashahhud and Salaam as both should be recited simultaneously. Du'a is always permissible during any part of Salah including Tashahhud and Salaam or between them. We have narrated supplications with Tashahhud. The Du'a can be short or long but it should not take you away from the Salah situation.
'Wassalam.

173024

Contract . Time . Mahr . Mut'a (Temporary marriage)

If I unintentionally omitted mentioning the time period for the temporary marriage contract, does it automatically become permanent or does my intention play a role in determining its duration?

If the time period was not mentioned in the contract, it becomes permanent according to many scholars, that is why you need to recite Talaq in front of two pious witnesses when she is not in her menses to terminate that contract. After that divorce, you both can read a temporary marriage mentioning the Mahr and period.
Wassalam.