Marriage

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a culturally and often legally recognised union between people called spouses. It establishes rights and obligations between them, as well as between them and their children (if any), and between them and their in-laws. It is nearly a cultural universal, but the definition of marriage varies between cultures and religions, and over time.

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Hadith . Sayyid . Marriage . Sadaqa (Charity) . Usul al-Kafi

Could you clarify the hadith in al-Kafi (5:3:22, hadith #5) where some interpret Imam al-Sadiq (as) as prohibiting marriage between Sayyid and non-Sayyid by stating, "sadaqa is not allowed for us"?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 5 months ago

Our great scholars who are Maraaje’ of Taqleed have studies all the Hadiths regarding marriage including this Hadith mentioned in your question and gave clear verdict that marriage between Mo'mina and Mo’min is allowed with out the condition of being Sayyed or not Sayyed. Great Sayyed Ulama have given their Sayyed daughters for marriage to non Sayyed Mo’mins like Ayatullah Khomeini who gave his daughter to Shaikh Eshraqi, Ayatullah Sayyed Muhsin Al-Hakeem who gave his daughter to Shaikh Hasan Najaf, Ayatullah Gulpaygani who gave his daughter to Shaikh Saadi and many other great Ulama.

In some countries culture such marriage is not accepted, but culture can never change the Sharia of the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS).

Wassalam.

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Brother . Wedding . Haram . Marriage

As a teenage girl without the authority to refuse, I am concerned about attending my brother's upcoming wedding, which may involve Haram elements. I do not want to disobey Allah, but how can I manage this situation without upsetting my parents?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 5 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

Have you expressed your concern about this to them? Have you spoken about not only how it is haram, but also how it will deprive them of barakah and tawfiq in their lives? Try your best to politely explain all of this, and remind them.

If they still insist on having haram elements in their wedding, I would recommend you attend only the essential parts of the wedding, so as not to create conflict and future problems for yourself, as he is your brother. You can then excuse yourself, once there are haram things. If anyone objects, or gets upset, that is for them. You cannot obey or please someone at the cost of disobeying and displeasing Allah ta'ala.

And Allah knows best

202305

Marriage . Parents

Is it true that Allah will ruin my marriage if my parents are not happy with it, even if the man is religiously suitable?

Virgin girl needs the permission of her father or her paternal grand father in her marriage.

Non virgin woman does not need her parents' permission in her marriage. Man also does not need permission in his marriage.

If your parents are not happy with your marriage for religious grounds like the person is non Muslim or non believer or non religious etc, you should avoid such marriage. If their disapproval is based on cultural or ethnic or economic reason which are not valid in Islam, you will not be harmed as far as you follow the teachings of the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS).

Wassalam.

201041

Girl . Parents . Family . Sunni-Shi'a . Marriage

I am a 32-year-old Sunni-born woman who has practiced Shia Islam for six years. My parents insist I marry a Sunni, but I wish to marry within the Shia community. Their resistance is growing stronger each day. What should I do in this situation?

No one has the right to force you to marry whom they want against your wish. This is the Islamic rule in all Islamic Sunni and Shia sects.Forced marriage us invalid. It is your life and you have the full right to choose your husband who should be a suitable Muslim man who follows Ahlul Bayt (AS) like you.

You may try to convince your parents either directly with very polite way, or indirectly through persons who can convince them. You should never give up and put your life with a person who is not suitable for you or a person who might create obstacles in your way to Allah, the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS).

Wassalam.

202313

Marriage . Conversion to Islam

If a non-Muslim man marries a Muslim woman and then sincerely converts to Islam after the marriage, does the marriage remain valid?

There is no marriage at all between Muslim female and non Muslim man according to basic Islamic rules, even if go for a civil marriage. Such marriage can be valid in court of law but it has no validity at all in Islam. If the man became a Muslim then you can both initiate an Islamic marriage Nikah with Mahr. Before such Nikah, you and him are never married.

Wassalam.

Marriage . Conversion to Islam

If a non-Muslim man marries a Muslim woman and then sincerely converts to Islam after the marriage, does the marriage remain valid?

Bismihi ta'āla

According to our esteemed scholars, a Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man, so if they did a marriage, it would be invalid. If he converts to Islam, they can perform a nikah ceremony.

And Allah knows best

202308

Parents . Marriage . Sin

Is it sinful if my parents physically hurt me or insult me over my choice in marriage?

It is obviously sinful for any one to physically hurt or insult other person over his or her choice in marriage. If your choice in marriage was not against Islamic rules, no one is allowed to object or insult you. Your parents want you to be safe and happy, and you need to understand the reasons behind their stand against your choice. You should never disrespect your parents nor reply them back. If you are sure that they are been misinformed about your choice, you should clarify the facts for them.

You need to always be very polite with your parents and keep on praying for them.

Wassalam.

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Marriage

How can I go about finding a marriage partner since I do not use matchmaking apps or have relatives to assist with arrangements?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 6 months ago

If you have a mosque near you, you could ask the imam of the mosque if he knows anyone. You could also ask friends. Joining Islamic groups (especially in person) never hurts! :)

201004

Parents . Family . Marriage . Sunni-Shi'a

Is it Islamic for my parents to prevent me from marrying a Lebanese Shia man from a respectable and religious family just because of his nationality, despite our compatibility and my desire to make our existing relationship Halal?

Islam discourages racism and tribalism and encourages accepting any suitor who is mu'min and compatible. However people are complicated, especially when it comes to their expectations for their children's marriage and potential future descendants. I am sorry you have to go through that.

Parents . Family . Marriage . Sunni-Shi'a

Bismihi ta'āla

In our Islamic tradition and culture, relationships are not just personal and individual. It is the coming together of two families. It should not be done without proper consent and blessings from both sides.

You do not want to jepordise your relationship with your parents. They might be from an older generation that thinks differently, and therefore, try to negotiate these things through the help of elders and your local scholars.

You cannot be in an 'existing' relationship if there is no marriage. You do not want the beginning of your married life to be in haram. That will never end good for you, or him.

And Allah knows best

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Husband . Sexual . Money . Divorce . Marriage

I have been married for two years, but my husband is unable to fulfill my financial and sexual rights as he lives abroad and has no money. What steps can I take to initiate a divorce, given my feelings of resentment toward him?

Bismihi ta'āla

The first step is to make sure the husband cooperates, so that he does not refrain from granting divorce, as that will make things difficult. Speak to your family, and your local scholar, and follow the procedure for shar'i divorce.

And Allah knows best

201040

Marriage . Father . Mother . Brother . Mut'a (Temporary marriage) . Grandparents

Is it allowed to keep a Mutah marriage confidential if her father and grandfather are deceased, but her mother and brother are alive? Does she need their consent in this situation?

Bismihi ta'āla

In our Islamic tradition and culture, relationships are not just personal and individual. It is the coming together of two families. It should not be done in secrecy. That is a big red flag. How will he maintain his respect to her, if she's gone behind her family's back and done the most important thing in her life, without telling her family.

As is most cases, the male will definitely use this in a way that he will not show accountability to her family, and many other wrong things.

If she has not been married before, and even if she has been married, involving family is very important.

And Allah knows best