Gheebah

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Is it permissible to engage in discussion or gossiping about the wrongdoings and problems caused by our country's ministers, PM, and president?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

Denouncing wrong doings of responsible persons against the interest and rights of people is an Islamic duty in every Muslim. We need to be wise and careful not to cause harm to ourselves and other believers when we express our objections on the wrong doers. Amr BilMa’roof and Nahi ‘Anil Munkar is obligatory with its conditions.

Wassalam.

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Engagement . Marriage . Family . Gheebah

When a person learns about an engagement for marriage within their family, is it their duty to inform their relatives if they have crucial information about the character of one of the parties or their family that might affect the marriage?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, if it is crucial information and would affect the success of the marriage, and you are asked for your input, you must be honest.

This situation is among the cases where gheebah (backbiting) is permissible, or maybe could even be obligatory.
Of course, you must be careful that it does not somehow backlash onto you as well.

And Allah knows best

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Sin . Gheebah

How can I warn someone about a malicious person without falling into the sin of committing Gheeba?

You must be sure that the person is really a malicious and there is risk on your friend from him. You can then hint to your friend to be careful before dealing with people.
Wassalam.

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Girl . School . Gheebah

I am a Muslim girl and in my school I have some non-Muslim friends and sometimes they gossip. I know it is bad to be part of such acts as Allah dislikes gossip. How can I avoid it without losing friends?

Bad friends can harm you more than your enemies. Never indulge in wrong even if your friends do. You must be careful that your friends don't make you lose your pious character nor make you share their bad acts.
Wassalam.

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Marriage . Gheebah

Is it permissible to tell a friend something negative about a person they are interested for marriage? Would it be considered Gheebah?

Bismihi ta'ala

It could even be obligatory to inform the friend about what you know about the person. Of course, you must make sure your information is accurate, and also it somehow does not backfire onto you.

It would not be considered as gheebah.

I would just advice it be done in a very diplomatic way, so as to avoid any problems from any side.

And Allah knows best.

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Sin . Friendship . Gheebah

Can one break kinship with sinful friends that backbite and use foul language a lot?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 4 years ago

It's good to choose friends who we want to be like and who we think are good influence on ourselves. We become like the people who we spend time with.

If you feel your friends are bad influences on you, you should not spend time with them. It doesn't mean that you have to hate them, you can still wish well for them and pray for their well-being from a distance.

The human being is like a piece of clay being molded, we are affected by those who are around us who subconsciously mold us into what we are, so if we don't like what we are being molded into, it is good to choose other people to spend time around as much as we can!

Sin . Friendship . Gheebah

Can one break kinship with sinful friends that backbite and use foul language a lot?

Bismihi ta'ala

In Islam, severing ties with family and kin is haram and considered a major sin. As for a friend, there are many necessary requirements and conditions for a believer to take someone else as a friend.

Friendship and Islamic brotherhood is extremely important, and we have many narrations that give us the guidelines of how selective we need to be with those who we associate with. We should be social, but never at the cost of exposing oneself to a morally polluted environment.

As humans, we are easily influenced by our surroundings, as strong as we may be, and therefore we must always be cautious about who we mix with. Someone who is careless about what they say and uses foul language, or backbites, or lies, is certainly not the kind of person you should consider as a friend or associate with.

Islamically, it is haram to be in the same gathering with someone who backbites, and you should stay away from such people. Of course, at first you should try to give advice and encourage them to be observant of what they say, but if that fails, then distance yourself.

And Allah knows best.

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Forgiveness . Repentance (Tawbah) . God (Allah) . Gheebah . Backbiting

How do I repent from Ghibah? Do I need to ask forgiveness of the people I have backbitten even if they do not know about it, or just seek forgiveness from Allah?

You need to seek forgiveness and pardon from them. If you are unable to do that then seek forgiveness from Allah to forgive you and them and keep praying for them.

Wassalam.

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Gheebah

If I feel that my mother-in-law and sisters-in-law are causing me problems then am I allowed to discuss this with my husband with the intention of obtaining his counsel or does this count as Gheebah?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 5 years ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

If there are genuine problems with your in-laws then you can discuss this with your husband with the intention of finding a solution. He may be able to intermediate and speak to those in-laws to find a common ground or way to reconcile differences. By not discussing these issues it can become worse, so it is good you are thinking to do so.

Just make sure that when you discuss these issues, it doesn't exceed the limits of the necessary matters. For example if one would starts insulting them then it could lead to ghiybah or mention unrelated matters

May Allah grant you success