Sabr (Patience)

Patience (or forbearance) is the ability to endure difficult circumstances such as perseverance in the face of delay; tolerance of provocation without responding in annoyance/anger; or forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. Patience is the level of endurance one can have before negativity. It is also used to refer to the character trait of being steadfast.

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God (Allah) . Sabr (Patience)

How can I determine if Allah has better plans for me, indicating that I should move on, or if I should exercise patience while continuing to seek what I desire?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

Allah (SWT) always Wants the best for us, but we need to do our best and out our efforts, then trust in Allah's Wisdom and Mercy and rely solely on Allah (SWT).

Wassalam.

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Death . Husband . Marriage . Sabr (Patience)

After the sudden death of my husband, people suggest that I should remarry to cope with life's challenges. However, I believe that the hardships are a test of my patience so that I may deserve eternal companionship with him in the afterlife. Am I right?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 2 years ago

I am sorry to hear about your loss.

It is your decision whether or not to remarry. Now that your husband has passed on, I am sure he would want you to be happy and more secure for the rest of your life.

However, possibly you are still going through the mourning process and aren't ready; maybe if you meet the right person and it is the right time, you will feel inside that it is the right time. Maybe the way you are seeing things right now suggests that it isn't quite the right time.

Religiously speaking, there is no benefit to putting extra restrictions on ourselves or making ourselves suffer more than our circumstances require. Sometimes people do this with a sense that Allah rewards difficulty. However, life is difficult enough without putting extra restrictions on ourselves!

People in jannah can be with whoever they want, whether or not they remarry.

With duas

Death . Husband . Marriage . Sabr (Patience)

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

As sad as it may be to lose a spouse, remarrying is completely your choice, and it will not undermine your loyalty to your marhum husband. Loneliness is never good, so if the opportunity arises that you can marry a noble, caring, pious and religious man, you should do so. This will certainly not affect who you will be in the afterlife, in Heaven, in shaa Allah.

Life is challenging, and having a partner of good choice will assist you in everything coming ahead of you, in shaa Allah.

And Allah knows best

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Hope . Sabr (Patience) . Employment . Intention (Niyah)

How can I perform a true Niyat? I always lose hope and resolve after making an aim and I lack patience for hard work. How can I get out of this state?

We always need to strengthen our will power and that does not come through just wishing but through hard work and constant training.

Fasting is one of the practices which help strengthening will power, and also Night Prayer (Salat Al-Layl or Namaz e Shab) and any good work which your desire does not like but you do it for the sake of Allah.

Wassalam.

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Hope . Sabr (Patience) . Prophet Ya'qub . Du'a (Supplication)

If my prayer for something has not been answered, should I keep on praying and not lose hope the way Prophet Yaqub (a) did? Or should I convince myself that it was not good for me and have patience and accept that I will never get what I wanted?

Imam Jafar Al-Sadiq (AS) was asked a similar question by a person called Maisarah. Imam replied him: O Maisarah, keep on praying and nether think that the matter has been ruled out.

you should keep praying and seeking from Allah to grant you what He knows that it is good for you.

Wassalam.

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Sabr (Patience)

What should a believer always keep in mind as a reference to being patient when trying something? And how do we know the right timing to move forward or to try new things?

1. Will power is the key for patience. More we strengthen our will power, more we are able to control ourselves and be patient.

2. Right timing comes from proper thinking after consultation with sincere experienced persons. When we want start something, we need to think about:

A) What are the requirements for achieving it?

B) Can we arrange for the requirements?

C) What do we expect from it if we get it?

D) What do we expect if we fail to get it?

E) What are the expected negative points if we get it ?

F) What are the expected negative points if we fail to get it?

Weighing and assessing the possibilities can help us make proper decision as much as we can.

Sometimes Estikhara can help us if we are not able to decide despite consultations.

Seeking help from Allah (SWT) is always required. He helps every servant who sincerely seeks His guidance and help with the Blessings of His most humble servants, Muhammad and his Holy Progeny (SAWA).

Wassalam.

Sabr (Patience)

What should a believer always keep in mind as a reference to being patient when trying something? And how do we know the right timing to move forward or to try new things?

Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answered 4 years ago

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. As a general rule of thumb, patience is an attitude that can be adopted after wise action. When you have acted wisely you need to have patience in order to see that action through. If you are still ironing out flaws and mistakes in your approach or strategy that has to be taken into account before switching to something else. But if you have tried and found that either you can't get the hang of that thing, or that you were mistaken in your approach or strategy, then it makes sense to explore your options. The believer relies on God for a good outcome after they have acted as wisely as they can and maintain patience for that outcome until it seems like something needs to be done differently.

May you always be successful

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Injustice . Sin . Sabr (Patience)

If a person is sinful does their patience count and have any merit when some injustice is done to them?

Patience in front of injustice is always very good. Every patient will get the reward of it depending on his intention and amount if his suffering. Allah says in Quran : Verily, the patient person get their reward with out counting. (Sura 39, Verse 10).

Wassalam.

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Sabr (Patience)

Why did the Prophet (pbuh) and his family (as) always recommend that we be patient when we have problems? What is the reward for those who are patient?

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. Patience is a wise and effective strategy in dealing with problems both in terms of their consequences in this world as well as the consequences in the next. As for this world, patience stops problems from becoming more exasperated, as when a person is not patient they become anxious and worried and that means that the problem becomes internal as well as external. At times, being patient in a situation can defuse the problem itself or at least limit it from spiralling out of control.

As for its effects on the personal development of a person, tests and trials are a means through which Allah increases the belief of His servants and in some traditions, it is mentioned that when a person cannot reach a level through their own actions and worship, Allah sends a test for them to be patient through so that He can raise them to those levels that they could not attain themselves. Patience also carries great rewards in the hereafter in relation to the difficulty of the test.

For more explanation on this issue please refer to this three-part series of The Scale of Wisdom Podcast:

Part 1:

https://anchor.fm/zoheir-ali-esmail/episodes/Episode-75-51-261-263-Ordea...

Part 2:

https://anchor.fm/zoheir-ali-esmail/episodes/Episode-76-51-264-268-Ordea...

Part 3:

https://anchor.fm/zoheir-ali-esmail/episodes/Episode-77-51-269-276-Ordea...

Particularly useful for this discussion are the episodes on faith and anxiety as well.

May you always be successful.