Polygamy

Polygamy (from Late Greek πολυγαμία, polygamía, "state of marriage to many spouses") is the practice of marrying multiple spouses. When a man is married to more than one wife at a time, sociologists call this polygyny. When a woman is married to more than one husband at a time, it is called polyandry.

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Children . Polygamy

If someone has multiple wives how are the wives supposed to treat the children of the other wives? Do they have to treat them as their own kids and do they have motherly rights over them?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 months ago

Muslim wife must treat all the children of her husband including from other wives with justice and kindness with out any discrimination. Motherly rights are on her own children but children from other wives must keep the respect of the wives of their father.
'Wassalam.

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Scholars . Marriage . Polygamy . Western Society

When scholars discuss marriage, such as in lectures, they often refer to a one husband and one wife model, akin to Western monogamous norms. Does this imply that Islamic polygamy has become irrelevant in contemporary discussions?

Islamic rules can never be irrelevant in any time or place. Islamic rules apply every where and every time according to its conditions and the circumstances. Polygamy has its own conditions for those who need it. Western monogamy is just a claim when their own studies confirm that most of them have illegitimate affairs during marriage while Islam is frank and clear in dealing with matters by organizing a system to protect people from sinful sexual behaviour.

Wassalam.

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Time . Slavery . Marriage . Woman . Polygamy . Qur'an

In the context of slavery, did female slaves automatically hold the same status as wives? If that is the case, what is the significance of marriage to slaves mentioned in the Qur'an? Why is marriage necessary if ownership implied a marital relationship?

Slavery rules were never started by Muslims but were already existing in different societies of the time when Islam came. Slavery rules are an outcome of wars. Islamic rules aimed to diminish slavery and finish it off. Slavery rules can not be taken as permanent rules for life but only in war and after war under many conditions.

Slave female from war between Nin Muslims against Muslims is not like a full wife of the owner who has the full rights of justice between her and other wife and inheritance from her husband. When the Muslims marries his owned female (Aman), she will then have all rights if the wife. With out marriage, she is called Sariyyah.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Marriage . Polygamy . Divorce

My husband asserts his exclusive love for me but wishes to marry another woman without justification. I disagree with this marriage; does my consent matter? Given my inability to handle the stress of a second marriage, am I allowed to ask for a divorce?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 year ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Your husband should concentrate his focus on you, and not aim at pursuing his lust. He should focus on building a family with you, and living a prosperous and productive life. You have a right to object, and you also have a right to ask for divorce. That will be your choice and your choice only.

And Allah knows best

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Wife . Marriage . Polygamy

Is it a requirement in Islam for the first wife to give consent for the husband to marry a second wife?

Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb, Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb has a BA in Law from Guilan University, Iran and has also undertaken Hawzah studies in Qom. He used to be a Cultural Affairs director of Ethics Group of Al-Mustafa... Answer updated 1 year ago

If by giving consent, her sister is saved from sin and poverty and staying single and not becoming a mother, then what a Mustahab act can you find better than sharing your husband with her?
have a look a these narrations:
بإسناده عن عليّ عليه السلام قال قال رسول اللّه صلّى اللّه عليه و آله كتب اللّه الجهاد على رجال أُمّتى، والغيرة
على نساء أُمّتى، فمن صبرت منهنّ واحتسبت أعطاها اللّه أجر شهيد

"On the authority of Ali (peace be upon him), he said that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his family) said: Allah has prescribed jihad for the men of my nation, and Ghayrat(jealousy about having a co-wife) for the women of my nation. So whoever among them is patient and endures with the intention of seeking reward, Allah will grant her the reward of a martyr.
العدة ، عن البرقي ، عن محمد بن الحسن ، عن يوسف بن حماد ، عمن ذكره ، عن جابر قال: قال أبو جعفر عليه السّلام : "غيرة النساء الحسد و الحسد هو أصل الكفر إن النساء إذا غرن غضبن و إذا غضبن كفرن إلا المسلمات منهن".
The jealousy of women is envy, and envy is the root of disbelief. When women become jealous, they become angry, and when they become angry, they disbelieve, except for the believing women among them."

Of course everyone should know that it's not obligatory for you to give consent and it's better that men understand their wives' emotions and as long as the first wife has not fully given her consent they don't go for the second. because they should not ruin the first life for helping another sister.
All said above are recommendations and not obligations
Wassalam

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Heaven . Husband . Polygamy

In heaven I would like to have a loyal husband who only wants me and does not want any Hoors. Is this a delusional dream since all men are polygamous in nature? Or are there men who are purely monogamous and will not want any Hoors?

Hassanain Govani, Hassanain Govani is based in Sweden and has an MA in History of Religion from Uppsala University and an MA in Islamic Studies from the Islamic College of London, and has also studied Arabic in... Answer updated 1 year ago

Salaamun Alaykum

I refer you to the Qur'an 41:31 and 43:71 where we are told that in Jannah we will be given "whatever we desire". This is a generic reply to all queries about Jannah and the rewards waiting there.

In addition, I would also point out that we should not expect the next life to be like this life. Yes, there are similarities between this life and the next, but the next life is essentially different. And so any description in the Qur'an is an allegory, not meant to be the complete picture, but rather an allegory intended to increase our yearning for the reward that God has promised the righteous.

And God knows best.

May He include us in His ultimate Mercy

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Respect . Wife . Polygamy . Sayyid

Should a man treat his two wives, one being Syeda and the other being non-Syeda, equally or should he give more respect to the Syeda wife?

Husband must treat his wives equally no matter from what background they come from. The respect for Sayyida wife is must but it does not mean at all discriminating his other wife or ignoring justice in treating her. Practical justice in compulsory otherwise no permission to marry more than wife without practical justice between them.

Wassalam.

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Polygamy

Is it permissible for Shia Muslims to have four wives?

Bismihi ta'ala

This is a Qur`anic law that all Muslims must believe in, every sect, that it is permissible, with its required conditions.

And Allah knows best

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Polygamy . God (Allah) . Ayat al-Tathir

How can we determine that the Ayah of Tathir excludes the Prophet's (s) wives, given that Allah mentions them in the verse?

The Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) called Ali, Fatima, Hasan and Husain and did not allow any of his wives to join when he explained who are involved in the Verse of Purification (Tatheer). Umm Salama who was the best of the wives after Khadija narrated that herself.

Saheeh Al-Tirmithi, Hadeeth 3205

Al-Sunnan Al-Kubrabby Al-Bayhaqi , V.2 ; page 150

The Prophet (SAWA) clearly said that : Those mentioned in this verse (of Tatheer) are five: myself, Ali, Fatimah, Hasan and Husain. (Mustadrak Al- Saheehain, by Al-Haakim Al-Nisabori , volume 2, page 480.

'Wassalam.I

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Nafs . Prophets . Polygamy

Are wives of Prophet (saw) also his Nafs according to Quran 30:21? If Imam Ali (as) is the Prophet Muhammad's Nafs as per Quran 3:61, and so superior to all other Prophets, what is the case for wives?

None of the wives of the Prophet (SAWA) had the degree of Nafs of the Prophet. The Prophet (SAWA) did not invite any his wives in Mubahala, but he invited his daughter Fatimah. Nafs of the Prophet (SAWA) was no one but Imam Ali (AS). According to a narration, Imam Al-Ridha (AS) was been asked by Al-Ma’moon Al-Abbasi; what is the greatest tribute of Ali in Quran? He replied : Al-Mubahala in Allah said ( Wa Anfosana wa Anfosakum).

Wassalam.

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Wife . Marriage . Polygamy

Is it allowed to take a previously Haram relationship as a second wife after promising the first wife you wouldn’t have any other wives?

Bismihi ta'ala

From a shar'i perspective, it would depend on if she meets the requirements for a shar'i legitimate marriage.

However, this approach such a husband takes is definitely inappropriate and morally wrong, especially among all things breaking a promise.

If the husband is that uncomfortable in his first marriage, he should not drag her into the humiliation of lies and deception to fulfill his needs, and should be honest and straightforward with her.

And Allah knows best

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Woman . Woman . Husband . Man . Polygamy

Why are women required to cover themselves while men are not? Additionally, why are men permitted to have up to four wives whereas women can only have one husband?

We believe in Allah's absolute Wisdom and Knowledge and Mercy,b that is why we never argue with any rule from Allah. We know that He Knows all the reasons even if we don't know. Real believers submit to all the rules which came from Allah (SWT) through His Messenger (SAWA).

We might know part if the reason but can never expect knowing full reason because of our limitations as human beings.

Woman covering her body might be related to the fact that woman in her nature is more attractive to men, that is why she needs to cover herself.

Woman is allowed one husband only at the time, because of her dignity and respect which part of her creation as a human female. Usually, noble females from any faith or religious or cultural background, don't accept nor digest having more than one husband at the time. That is part of her nature.

Wassalam.