Narcissism

Narcissism is a self–centered personality style characterized as having an excessive preoccupation with oneself and one's own needs, often at the expense of others. Narcissism exists on a continuum that ranges from normal to abnormal personality expression. While many psychologists believe that a moderate degree of narcissism is normal and healthy in humans, there are also more extreme forms, observable particularly in people who are excessively self-absorbed, or who have a mental illness like narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), where the narcissistic tendency has become pathological, leading to functional impairment and psychosocial disability.

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Husband . Hijab . Narcissism

Did my husband have a valid reason to be upset about me not wearing a Hijab when I was admitted to the ER for an emergency, considering my condition and the fact that I am a recent revert to Islam without prior knowledge of Islamic culture?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 1 year ago

May I suggest, this is nothing to do with a revert. When anyone is having a medical emergency, the medical emergency comes first, and hijab comes second. If he is jealous of ER personnel who are treating you, he is the one having a problem.

Situations where women died due to prioritizing hijab over life - for instance, when girls fleeing a burning school in Saudi were sent back inside to get their hijabs, and burned to death - are not noble; they are sad.

It could be worthwhile considering Islam and the marriage, as separate issues. Being a Muslim is not the same thing as being married to this person. It could be worthwhile to consider how the marriage is going, and whether it is a healthy marriage and offering what you need (especially since you are not living together). Even if you are a revert, the job of a husband is not to be the religious police; it sounds like he may want a situation where he can be in control, but this may become tiring over the years. On your side, there are many resources about Islam available online these days, and it would be good to focus more on learning on your own, rather than being dependent on him to teach you, which can set up an unhealthy psychological dynamic. Conversely, it could also be worth considering whether or not you would remain a Muslim if the marriage broke up.

Hope your situation improves!

Husband . Hijab . Narcissism

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 year ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Unfortunately, your husband is not being accommodating enough for your situation and circumstance. He should know better that our beautiful religion is tolerant, forbearing and forgiving. You barely being cognitive and extremely sick means your circumstances change, and nobody has right to say anything. Please refer to verse 61 of Surah al-Nur, which expicitly says this.

Marrying a revert means he must accommodate to your needs of gradual learning and understanding, and if he didnt mind you staying christian, then he has no right to object. He should be extra grateful that you have come this father, and whichever path you choose, that is for you.

My advice to you, my sister, is learn more about the religion, study and research, to understand Islam and you will definitely appreciate what it has to offer to you.

Many born Muslims really have no idea what Islam represents, and they definitely do not represent Islam.

Your husband should have more patience, and as Muslims, we are taught to be humble and apologise when we are wrong.

With prayers for your success

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Mother . Home . Mental Illness . Narcissism

I have mental illnesses and by being with my narcissistic mother they become worse. Can I move out from her home if she hurts me mentally and emotionally while being available to help her when she needs?

Yes.

(However, if you have a mental illness, this would be on the condition that you are able to care for yourself and live on your own, or else that you will have the required support and assistance. Since mental illnesses vary in nature, this may or may not be relevant to you personally.)