What is the reality of death anniversary in Islam?And what should one do when your relatives perform certain rituals that are not a part of Islam but just traditions of that society?Is it fine if I don't attend such rituals?
Remembering the deceased and praying for them or feeding or reciting Quran or arranging a Majlis on their behalf is always good, whether it is done in yearly basis or monthly or weekly or even daily. Attending such gatherings is good specially when you are invited by a relative of a Momin friend to attend. You will have then the reward of accepting the invitation of your relative or a Momin as well as gifting a reward to the deceased. Wahhabism object on such gatherings because of their misunderstanding and narrow-mindedness.
Wassalam.