Zaid Alsalami's response to My husband is seeking out a new relationship with another female. I am not okay with it but he is not stopping. Can I divorce him or do I have to just accept it?

My husband is seeking out a new relationship with another female. I am not okay with it but he is not stopping. Can I divorce him or do I have to just accept it?

We have a child on the way, I am currently 8.5 months pregnant with his baby.

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

If your husband pursues extra-marital affairs, either in the halal way (mut'ah or seeking a second wife), then you have the choice of either staying with him, or getting divorced from him.

Of course, such issues must be directly addressed, and his and your family be involved as well.

Your husband might be going through a phase, and needs a wakeup call for him to return back and focus on his marriage. If so, forgive him, and try to strengthen the relationship.

However, if after intervention he still pursues the new relationship, then you decide what you wish to do. To divorce him, or continue to live with him. Just know that you are not obliged to live under such circumstances.

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