There is not a lot of information in the resources about the women of the Ahl al-Bayt (as), but we can infer from understanding more about their context what some of their qualities were: they were of the politico-spiritual elite and supported the mission of Islam without putting a foot wrong. This must mean that they were both politically and spiritually knowledgeable. Sayyidah Zaynab (s) was trusted enough to teach in place of Imam al-Husayn (as) if he was not available.

Therefore, to be more like them we need to seek knowledge of Allah (swt): how He is understood Islamically and how we draw Him near to us as a friend; we need to seek wisdom and we need to understand what is wise behaviour. Islam recommends that we contemplate and reflect in order to deepen our understanding of everything, so regular moments of contemplation are recommended.

Understanding the context in which the women of the Ahl al-Bayt (as) lived can also help you to understand what role their played: what was society like in Late Antiquity and Arabia at that time? What changes to society did Islam bring?

It is good to combine a traditional reading of the Hadith and historical collections with academic studies to gain a fuller picture of how they managed to live under very difficult circumstances.
Platforms such as Academia.edu, JSTOR, Scribd, Internet Archive and Research.net can provide you with many free pdf books and papers.