Zaid Alsalami

Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from ANU, Canberra. He has written and translated several Islamic texts and also prepared educational videos on Islamic rulings and practices.

203976

Brother . Wedding . Haram . Marriage

As a teenage girl without the authority to refuse, I am concerned about attending my brother's upcoming wedding, which may involve Haram elements. I do not want to disobey Allah, but how can I manage this situation without upsetting my parents?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 5 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

Have you expressed your concern about this to them? Have you spoken about not only how it is haram, but also how it will deprive them of barakah and tawfiq in their lives? Try your best to politely explain all of this, and remind them.

If they still insist on having haram elements in their wedding, I would recommend you attend only the essential parts of the wedding, so as not to create conflict and future problems for yourself, as he is your brother. You can then excuse yourself, once there are haram things. If anyone objects, or gets upset, that is for them. You cannot obey or please someone at the cost of disobeying and displeasing Allah ta'ala.

And Allah knows best

203970

Socks

Is it compulsory to wear socks as a part of Hijab?

Bismihi ta'āla

Yes, for women, the feet are a part of what must be covered, as hijab.

And Allah knows best

202313

Marriage . Conversion to Islam

If a non-Muslim man marries a Muslim woman and then sincerely converts to Islam after the marriage, does the marriage remain valid?

Bismihi ta'āla

According to our esteemed scholars, a Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man, so if they did a marriage, it would be invalid. If he converts to Islam, they can perform a nikah ceremony.

And Allah knows best

202329

Consent . Mut'a (Temporary marriage) . Parents

If a temporary marriage contract is to facilitate verbal communication only, can it be done without parental consent or would this situation fall under a different ruling due to the circumstances?

Bismihi ta'āla

For the validity of the contract, for whatever reason it may be, the parent must give consent. It is also definitely the ethical thing to do.

And Allah knows best

202364

Salawat . Salah (Prayers)

During prayer I said "wa aali Muhammad" instead of "wa 'alaa aali Muhammad" in the Salawat. Does this invalidate my prayer if this was done accidently because I forgot?

Bismihi ta'āla

It will not invalidate your prayer.

And Allah knows best

202373

Wife . Man . Divorce . Husband

If a wife is in contact with another man in an inappropriate way and then seeks divorce from her husband in order to be with that other man, while the husband refuses divorce and wishes for reconciliation, does she have the right to obtain divorce?

Bismihi ta'āla

She can request this from her husband, and the husband should comply. He has no right to force her to stay with him. He needs to give himself self-respect and cooperate.

And Allah knows best

202426

Ghusl . Sexual

While in the bathroom, I noticed a white liquid, similar to sperm in smell and appearance, that came out during defecation. Might this have been caused by straining? In such cases, is it necessary to perform Ghusl?

Bismihi ta'āla

No. You do not need to do ghusl. The only time you will need to do ghusl is when the seminal discharge is by ejaculation, or intercourse. The pre-seminal fluid, etc, do not need ghusl. In your case, as it came out with urine, it just needs washing.

And Allah knows best

200865

Husband . Sexual . Money . Divorce . Marriage

I have been married for two years, but my husband is unable to fulfill my financial and sexual rights as he lives abroad and has no money. What steps can I take to initiate a divorce, given my feelings of resentment toward him?

Bismihi ta'āla

The first step is to make sure the husband cooperates, so that he does not refrain from granting divorce, as that will make things difficult. Speak to your family, and your local scholar, and follow the procedure for shar'i divorce.

And Allah knows best

200869

Mut'a (Temporary marriage) . Sexual

Is a Mut'ah marriage valid if there is no intercourse but there is physical intimacy, even if there is disapproval from parents?

Bismihi ta'āla

The simple shar'i answer is no. The contract she enters into will not be valid. However, one must not look at this only from a shar'i side, but more from a moral and social aspect as well.

In general, it is Islamically wrong and very disloyal if one engages with relationships without knowledge and blessings of parents. If they disapprove, that is even worse.

And Allah knows best

201004

Parents . Family . Marriage . Sunni-Shi'a

Is it Islamic for my parents to prevent me from marrying a Lebanese Shia man from a respectable and religious family just because of his nationality, despite our compatibility and my desire to make our existing relationship Halal?

Bismihi ta'āla

In our Islamic tradition and culture, relationships are not just personal and individual. It is the coming together of two families. It should not be done without proper consent and blessings from both sides.

You do not want to jepordise your relationship with your parents. They might be from an older generation that thinks differently, and therefore, try to negotiate these things through the help of elders and your local scholars.

You cannot be in an 'existing' relationship if there is no marriage. You do not want the beginning of your married life to be in haram. That will never end good for you, or him.

And Allah knows best

201040

Marriage . Father . Mother . Brother . Mut'a (Temporary marriage) . Grandparents

Is it allowed to keep a Mutah marriage confidential if her father and grandfather are deceased, but her mother and brother are alive? Does she need their consent in this situation?

Bismihi ta'āla

In our Islamic tradition and culture, relationships are not just personal and individual. It is the coming together of two families. It should not be done in secrecy. That is a big red flag. How will he maintain his respect to her, if she's gone behind her family's back and done the most important thing in her life, without telling her family.

As is most cases, the male will definitely use this in a way that he will not show accountability to her family, and many other wrong things.

If she has not been married before, and even if she has been married, involving family is very important.

And Allah knows best

201044

OCD . Wudu (Ablution)

As a concerned mother of a 12-year-old facing anxiety and religious OCD, I am wondering if my daughter had the right Niyyah but made mistakes in Wudu without realizing it, are her past Wudu and prayers valid? Should we encourage her to ignore her doubts?

Bismihi ta'āla

Indeed, you must be concerned, and if not stopped, it will consume her, and make her life miserable, and everyone around her as well.

She must only follow her shar'i takleef. Nothing more, nothing less. Her duty is to constantly dismiss her doubts, and consider whatever she does as correct, even if other thoughts enter her mind, and even if she continues to think she did it wrong. She ignores it.

Once she does this for a while, it will, in shaa Allah, break the cycle of her intrusive thoughts.

And Allah knows best.