Obedience

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If a husband requests his wife to wash his clothes, which is within her ability, is she obligated to comply? If he supports her and asks her to perform household chores, does that make it compulsory for her to obey in such Halal and feasible matters?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

If there was an understanding between them that he spends on her more than the basic needs of food and clothes and shelter and she looks after the household matters, such understanding makes it compulsory on both of them to full fil that mutual understanding. Some people say that wife has no responsibility at all at home more than matrimonial matters for her husband, but many scholars say that the understood agreement on her responsibilities at home matters and must be obliged.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Worship . Obedience . Salah (Prayers) . Nafl . Islamophobia

Can you disobey Islamophobic parents to perform acts of worship that are both Mustahab and obligatory like praying Nafilah?

If the parents are Muslims, they should not prevent their children from performing obligatory worship, but if they try to do that for any reason, you must perform your obligatory worship at any cost. If Muslim parents object on recommended worship, you have then to consider not to hurt their feelings and not to make them feel disrespected, specially when their objection on the recommended acts is based on their fear on you or care for you because of their thinking that certain recommended worship can affect your health such as recommended fasting. You should do your best to keep the respect of your parents and avoid any act which might cause them feeling disrespected.

If the parents are non Muslims and try to stop you from your Islamic duties, you are then not obliged to listen to them as no one is entitled to stop us from our obligatory duties.
In anyway you should always keep the respect of our parents even if they are non Muslims. In Quran Allah says in Surah Luqman, verse 15 [But if ( Your parents) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have knowledge, then don't obey them; but behave with them in this world kindly]

Wassalaam

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Parents . Sin . God (Allah) . Obedience

What should I do if my parents ask me to do things that contradict Allah's commands, possibly leading to sin? Should I always obey them in both religious and non-religious matters, even when I know what is right?

You have to always keep the respect of your parents but not obey any order which is against the orders of Allah (SWT). The Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) said: No obedience to any creature in the disobedience of The Creator. If you are sure that the order given to you by your parents leads to sinful act, then you must refrain from committing sins.

Wassalam.

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Woman . Obedience

Why do women have to obey their husbands?

Woman deserves peaceful life and harmony with her husband. Harmony needs a discipline to avoid disputes and quailing. Woman needs to obey her husband in good deeds and not in wrong.
'Wassalam.

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Parents . Marriage . Son . Woman . Morality . Divorce . Infant . Obedience

What are the reasons, apart from religious or moral criteria, that parents can use to reject a marriage of their son with a divorced woman who has a baby? And what is the obligation on the son to obey their decision?

Matured man is allowed to marry the female whom he chooses if she is suitable as far as her religion and morals. Man does need permission of his parents in marriage unlike virgin girl who definitely needs permission from her father or paternal grand father.

keeping the respect of the parents is essential.

Wassalam.

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Heart . Obedience . Qur'an

How can I address the issue of my heart feeling sealed according to the Quran and my decreased level of obedience compared to before?

We need to repeat Estighfaar day and night, and repeat long Sojood (Prostration) whenever we can. It is also useful to visit grave graves of our known persons and remember that they went before us and we are definitely going after them and difference between them and us but only the date of departure. It is also useful to put your hand in head of an orphan out of kindness and respect. This act makes heart more soft.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Obedience

Is it obligatory to obey the parents if they ask for something that they do not really need and that is beyond what is normal and necessary for them?

You must always treat your parents in the best possible way of treatment and look after them and serve them to make them always happy with you. If they ask something which out of your ability, try to explain to them, but never hurt their feelings.

‘Wassalam

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Mother . Children . Obedience

If one's mother interferes and wants to control in almost all the things of the child's life who is 30 years old, how much must the child obey her?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answer updated 3 years ago

Sometimes mothers find it hard to accept that their children are adults. If the child is now a man, then he needs to be respected as a man, and not emasculated and controlled by a woman, even if that woman is his mother. If the child is a woman, the mother needs to understand that by attempting to micromanage her daughter's life she is actually crippling her emotionally, and this will cause problems either with finding a husband for her daughter, or with her daughter's already existing marriage. According to the teachings of the Ahl al-Bayt (as), the respect due to parents is conditional upon how they treat their children. It is well known that according to ahadith, it is recommended that after the age of fourteen, the child should be treated as a 'friend', not as a seven-year-old. There is a non confrontational method of establishing boundaries called "grey rock", which you can find out more about on YouTube. You may also want to research "narcissistic" or "controlling" mothers, and something else called "emotional enmeshment". I will update this answer further with references inshaAllah.

Mother . Children . Obedience

If one's mother interferes and wants to control in almost all the things of the child's life who is 30 years old, how much must the child obey her?

You must tolerate and keep on tolerating no matter how much and how long your mother interferes or controls. Never show any reaction against her and avoid any word or less which can hurt your mother's feelings and dignity as your mother.

Wassalam.

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Woman . Husband . Obedience

Should a woman always obey her husband in everything even if it requires her getting harmed physically or emotionally?

Muslim woman has to obey her husband in good things only and not in bad things. Bad things mean unlawful acts and harmful acts. There is no obedience for any creature in disobeying The Creator, Allah.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Obedience

Must we obey our husband in all matters whether they relate to Wajib, Mustahab, Makruh or Mubah, or are there any exceptions?

Wife must obey her husband in matters which are permissible or recommended in Islam. Wife is not allowed to obey her husband if he orders her to leave an obligatory ( Wajib) or to do unlawful (Haraam).
Exceptions are there when she is unable to do what he wants from her for health reasons.

Wassalam.

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Woman . Obedience . Husband . Parents . Marriage . Mut'a (Temporary marriage)

After a woman gets married does obedience of her husband override that of her parents? Does the ruling differ for temporary and permanent marriages?

Husband's rights overrides parents' rights when both demand contradict. Wife must fulfill the rights of her husband after obeying Allah (SAWA). She has to always keep respecting and being nice to her parents.

Temporary marriage situation depends on the period agreed and the understanding between them. Short period marriage is not like long period marriage. In long period marriage wife needs to obey her husband as usual marriage but in short period marriage which was agreed just for sexual fulfilment, she has to fulfill her husband sexual needs then she is free in other matters of life like going out or working etc.

Wassalam.