Love

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Some claim Allah has hands, and the reply is that Allah is unlike His creation, so He cannot have hands. Then it is said that while Allah and humans both love, their love is different, similar to the difference in hands. How should one respond to this?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answer updated 10 months ago

Claiming that Allah (SWT) Has hands or legs or eyes etc is completely wrong. Such claim goes against Quran where Allah Has clearly Sys (ليس كمثله شيء There is nothing like Him) Sura Al-Shura, Verse 11. This claim was taken from previous peoples who claimed that Allah Has hands. Quran says: (QUL HOWALLAHU AHAD). AHAD means the Ine Who Has no Similar at all.

Claiming hands for Allah (SWT) leads to disbelieving in Allah and imagining something else.

Wassalam.

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Kaffara . Love . Body . Wife . Hickey

Is Kaffara required if I leave a hickey, a love bite, on my wife or if she leaves one on me? Is there unanimity on this matter among the main Maraji'?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 year ago

Bismihi ta'ala

No, there is no kaffarah or blood-money, etc., as long as it was consensual as well, from her side, and not to hurt her.

And Allah knows best

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Parents . Divorce . Love . Du'a (Supplication)

Can you please provide me with a Dua that will help improve my parents' relationship, as they have been fighting a lot and talking about divorce lately?

1. Azaan أذان loudly makes the house more blessed and drives away evil from the house.

2. Reciting Sura Yaseen every morning is very useful in making the house more peaceful and more blessed.

3. Repeating Salawaat and Estighfaar is very useful.

4. Giving Sadaqa.

5. Repeating (YA GHFOURU YA WADOUD).

Wassalam.

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Istikhara . Love . Father . Marriage

Should I proceed with my marriage despite a negative Istikhara performed by my aunt, since we love each other and his father is now supportive? Can I perform Istikhara myself? Is there a possibility for the outcome to change?

The Istekhara done by your aunt is your Istekhara unless you have have requested her to do it on your behalf.

If she did the Istekhara with out your requesting her, then you can see your own Istekhara.

If she did the Istekhara on your request, and situation has changed, you can see another Istekhara again based in change of circumstances.

Wassalam.

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Love . God (Allah) . Forgiveness

How can I seek forgiveness and receive love from Allah SWT when I feel inadequate in my faith, living in constant fear of Him and worried about the state of my being?

When you read Quran,b you will see that Allah Loves persons with good qualities like:

1. Allah Loves those who do good. (2:195)

2. Allah Loves those who repent and purify themselves from sins. (2: 222).

3. Allah Loves the Pious. (3: 76).

4. Allah Loves the good doers. (3:148).

5. Allah Loves those who put their trust in Him. (3:159).

6. Allah Loves the good doers. (5:13).

7. Allah Loves those who are justly. (5:42).

8. Allah Loves those who fight in His cause together like a solid structure. (61: 4).

Many other verses in Quran give similar meaning of the reason of the love of Allah.

We can gain love of Allah through obtaining these noble deeds which has degrees depending on the degrees of the noble deeds.

Thinking about the countless bounties of Allah on us increases our love to Allah, and that will make us more grateful and obedient servants, which leads us more near to the love of Allah.

Loving and obeying the most beloved servants of Allah, Muhammad and his Holy Progeny (SAWA) makes us more near to the love of Allah (SWT).

Repeating Estighfaar and Salawaat is always useful in purifying our hearts and deeds and enlightening our hearts.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Engagement . Love

What should I do if my in-laws mistreated my parents, causing them to want to end my engagement, but my fiance and I are unwilling to give up because of our love for each other?

You should tolerate the mistreatment if any and try to avoid any situation or act which instigates unpleasant relationship with your in laws.

Try to explain to your parents that you and your fiancée are in agreement and his family mistreatment should not ruin your engagement.

Wassalam.

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Love . Martyrdom . Death . Ahl al-Bayt

I understand to be a martyr one must die with the love of both the Prophet (S) and the Ahlul Bayt (AS). So with the situation in Palestine, would one who dies there be considered a martyr if they did not die with the love of Ahlul Bayt (AS)?

Allah (SWT) Knows what is in the heart of every one and we are not entitled to judge the intentions of people. Allah Knows why there were killed and what was in their hearts when they were defending their homes and families. We read in the Hadeeths that a person who dies while defending his family or land will get the reward of Shaheed.

'Our responsibility as followers of Ahlul Bayt (AS) is to support the oppressed against the oppressors as Ameerul Mo'mineen Ali (AS) ordered us: Be against the oppressor and with the oppressed.

Wassalam.

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Wife . Anxiety . Depression . Divorce . Love . Du'a (Supplication)

My wife is suffering from anxiety and depression, and because of this she wants divorce. I love her and do not wish that happens. Is there any Dua which I can recite on her behalf so that she may get out of this state?

1, Try to avoid any act or talk which instigates her anxiety or annoys her. You are her husband and supposed to be the closest human being to her so you should try your best to make her feel happy as much as you can.

2. If she has close persons like her mother, sisters, friend etc who might be able to talk to her to leave the idea of divorce, it should good to request them to do that.

3. If she feels that she needs counseling, try to help arranging good and constructive counseling to make her leave the idea of divorce by explains to her the negative side of divorce.

4. Recite Quranic supplications like RABBANA HABLANA MIN AZWAAJINA WA THURRUYATINA QURRATA A'YUN.

5. Repeat seeking help from Allah by praying :YA GHAFOURU YA WADOUD as many times as you want.

Wassalam.

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Love . Salah (Prayers) . Du'a (Supplication) . God (Allah) . Sincerity

How can one deal with the feeling that one's prayers, Duas, love for Allah, and overall Iman is forced and fake?

Such feeling is from your worst enemy Shaitan who always tries to harm us through different ways. After knowing the source of the a satanic thoughts, we need to tackle it by seeking help and protection from Allah. Repeating Istighfaar and Salawaat and reciting Quran and Du'a are very useful.

Read Quran and sayings of the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS) and repeat to remember and understand more.

Wassalam.

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Kafir . Love . Sunni-Shi'a . Imamah . Oppression . Ahl al-Bayt

Is it true that the Shia believe that all the non-Shia are Kafir because they reject the 12 Imams and have love for the people who oppressed the Ahlulbayt AS?

It is untrue. It is one of the many false accusations against us fabricated by our enemies.

We believe that followers of any Muslim sect being Sunni (Hanafi, Shafi'ee, Maliki, Hanbali, Barelwi, Deobandi or Zaidi or Abaadhi or Ash'ari or Salafi or Wahabi etc are Muslims like us.

Even those who claim that we Shia are Kafirs are misguided Muslims and we never consider them as Kafirs.

Wassalam.

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Pain . Love . Salah (Prayers) . God (Allah)

In most Shia texts I have read so far, they have screamed excruciating pain upon those who do not pray Salah and rarely the rewards. With this in mind, how does one pray their Salah with a peaceful mind and with any love for Allah?

There are many Hadeeths about the great reward and ample blessings and gifts for the person who performs Salah. Also the emphasis on praying Salah with dedication as we read in the first verses in Sura Al-Mo'minoon.

You can read in Thawab Al-A'maal by al-Shaikh Al-Sadouq many narrations in this regard e.g. When the believer performs Salah, the angles cover him with a cover of mercy, and his sins will fall down like the leaves of the tree in autumn. If the believer knows the mercy on him while he is praying, he will never leave his Salah. Prayers cleans the book of deeds and removes the bad deeds, etc.

Wassalam.

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Mother . Wife . Love . Domestic violence

My mother is verbally abusive to my wife. My wife is a good mother and wife and I love her. But my mother absolutely hates her. What is my duty to both of them?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 3 years ago

It is unacceptable for a mother-in-law to be verbally abusive to her daughter-in-law. Verbal abuse, jealousy and hatred to that extent can be part of a personality disorder. I can recommend researching in detail the characteristics of the malignant, narcissistic woman and mother. In insulting someone you love, she is also abusing you. Mothers with a narcissistic personality disorder (as opposed to just being self-centred) are competitive in terms of who their child loves most.

How your children see you behave with your mother and wife will affect their own marriages down the line. Can you ask your mother not to verbally abuse your wife? If you feel you can't, that is revealing something about how your mother has trained you to relate to her, i.e. to remain passive and take the abuse; to not have enough self-worth to even politely ask her not to be verbally abusive.

Your duty is to love and protect your wife. You are the head of your household. You also have to protect the well being of your children. If they see their mother being abused their well being will be affected too.

According to Ayatollah Dastghayb-Shirazi, you are entitled to minimise or even cut ties with family members whose bad behaviour you can't reform, or whose bad behaviour gets worse by your presence, or whose bad behaviour you indirectly condone by co-operating with them. Being good to your parents does not mean condoning behaviour that could destroy your family.

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