My husband is very aggressive and abusive. I believe he hates me but for the sake of our 5 kids he has given me a place to stay. He always gives out Talaq to me and accuses me of adultery and major sins. How should I deal with this situation?
This is a test for you as every human being has a test in his life or tests. We have in the statements of the Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) : The Jihad of the woman is tolerating the bad attitude of her husband.
We can not make judgement before listening to both parties, but there are thousands of cases of bad attitude of husband towards his wife, or the wife towards her husband.
We need to be sure that husband and wife must avoid any act or word which instigates the other. Wife should do her best not to do or say anything which makes her husband unhappy with her. If she fulfills her responsibility in this matter, and still suffers from bad attitude of her husband or his parents or relatives, she will be then getting the degree of Jihad for her tolerance and patience.
Be careful not to fall in any unwanted acts or words as a reaction of bad acts from her husbands or his family.
Remember the great reward of pious ladies like Asiya who suffered a lot from bad husband Firaon.
Patience and seeking support and help from Allah (SWT) is the main gate of relief from such difficult situation.
Repeatin YA GHAFOUR YA WADOUD ,
LA HAWLA WALA QUWWATA ILLA BILLAH
ASTAGHFIRULLAH RABBI WA ATOUBU ELAYH
ALLAHUMMA SALLI AL MUHAMMAD WA AALI MUHAMMAD is also very helpful.
Wassalam.