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My mother and I currently reside in a European country with access to Halal food. However, my father wishes us to move to a less favorable country for the sake of family unity. Considering that my mother can provide better for me, what should I decide?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 2 years ago

Family unity is of vital importance. It sounds like there may be other issues here - more than that of halal food - possibly issues of balance of power between your parents. Why would your mother not want to be with your father? Is your father respected in the family? Do you have a close bond with him?

Mother . Father . Family

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

You should avoid hurting or disrespecting any of your parents. Even you have no way but to chose one option of your parents different options, you must keep their respect and nice to both of them in every possible way.

‘Wassalam.

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Parents . Istikhara . Family . Marriage Proposal

My parents conducted Istikhara for a proposal that came out positive. Though my parents know the guy and his family, there is a 13-year age gap and I lack attraction towards him. As such, I am feeling uncertain, will refusing lead to future regret?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

You and your family should not rely on istikharah for making the decision of marriage. Istikharah should not be the primary tool to be used for marriage selection.

The age gap that you mentioned is not really a major issue, and could be overlooked, if there is compatibility and commonalities and attraction towards each other.

However, as you said there is no attraction, and you do not have that certainty in this marriage proposal, then I would recommend you not rush into this, and not allow your parents to pressure you.

You have every right to decline this proposal as well, and if you are doing the right thing, you wont need to regret in the future.

For marriage, the important thing is him being religious, having good morals, good reputation, and there being compatibility between you and him.

Sit with him, once or twice, or even three times, and ask the right questions, especially about future plans and what your ambitions and goals are, and how his views agree with you or not, and then make your decision. Not based on istikharah, but based on the information you have.

With prayers for your success.

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Parents . Cousin . Milk . Sister . Family . Mother

Is it permissible for my parents to be considered as my maternal cousin's own parents, given that she is my milk sister and is living with us as a family member due to her mother's passing?

Milk daughter is not allowed to marry with her milk father nor her milk brother, but she does not have a share in inheritance like a real daughter unless by a will and within the limit of the one third. As she is living with your family due to her mothers passing away, you and all your family members should give her all moral support and look after her in every possible way.
Wassalam.

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Sunni . Family . School . Salah (Prayers) . Ahl al-Bayt

Is my prayer valid if I pray alongside my Sunni family members while following the Ahl al-Bayt school of thought? What is the ruling regarding the validity of Sunni prayers?

Praying along with any Muslim from any other sect apart from Ahlul Bayt is not only permissible but also recommended.

Wassalam.

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Engagement . Marriage . Family . Gheebah

When a person learns about an engagement for marriage within their family, is it their duty to inform their relatives if they have crucial information about the character of one of the parties or their family that might affect the marriage?

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, if it is crucial information and would affect the success of the marriage, and you are asked for your input, you must be honest.

This situation is among the cases where gheebah (backbiting) is permissible, or maybe could even be obligatory.
Of course, you must be careful that it does not somehow backlash onto you as well.

And Allah knows best

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Monk . Family . Hindusim . Salah (Prayers)

As a former Hindu celibacy monk who is now 22 years old, how may I incorporate Shia prayers into my daily routine at home without my family becoming aware of it?

You should perform the obligatory Daily Prayers in a place where your non Muslim family should not see you, either in a separate room at home or outside your home.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Wife . Family . Friendship

Is it correct for a husband to prohibit his wife from working or socializing with her friends and family, using Islam as justification and claiming it is his right as a husband?

Islam does organize the family life and the relationship between husband and wife but there no right for the husband to stop his wife from meeting her family or usual friends who don't harm her faith and behaviour. Working of the wife depends on its nature, so if her work does not prevent her husband from his rights as a husband, then it is allowed for her to work, and vice Versa.

Wassalam.

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Family . Sunni . School . Responsibility . Ahl al-Bayt . God (Allah)

My family follows the Sunni school of thought, but I follow the Ahl al-Bayt. They are unaware of my beliefs. Should it be my responsibility to inform them about my religious path? How would God view my decision to keep this information to myself?

It depends on the situation of your family. If your family members are flexible and open minded and appreciate evidence and believe in freedom of faith, then you can inform them that the authentic evidence guided to to follow Ahlul Bayt (AS). You can also give them some important points which guided you to Ahlul Bayt (As) which can help them not only to appreciate your research for the Truth for your life here and hereafter, but also open their minds to think properly about the Reality of Real Islam of the Prophet and his Holy Progeny.

'If your family members are rigid and closed minded and do not respect evidence nor freedom of faith and want to remain blindly following their fore fathers, then it might be harmful to inform them because it might create enmity and hatred against you.

'Keeping your faith secret is the option of thousands of believers who live in a negative surroundings which can harm them if they disclose. This is called Taqiyya which is mentioned in Quran in many verses. Allah Did Praise in Quran (Sura Ghaafir; verse 28) a believer from Firaon family who was hiding his faith.

Wassalam.

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Family . Sadaqa (Charity)

Can Sadqa be given to your immediate family members if they are financially affected?

Sadaqa can be given to your needy relatives except those whose financial responsibility is on you like your parents, your wife, and our children.

Wassalam.

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Family . Woman . Employment

What are the Islamic guidelines for a Muslim female who was offered a job in another state away from her family?

Main thing is insuring her safety and security. She must be sure that she is fully able to protect herself and keep her respect and modesty as a Muslim female who performs Hijab and all religious duties. She should never take risk of living far away from her family when there is possibility of any harm on her her.

Wassalam.

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Family . Du'a (Supplication) . Sustenance

Is there any Dua that we can say to increase financial Rizq for one's family?

Ther are many Du'a s and advices from the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS) to increase financial Rizq e.g.

1- ALLAHUMMA INNI AS'ALOKA MIN FADHLIKA AL-'ADHEEM KHAIRAL DUNIA WAL AAKHIRA اللهم اني أسألك من فضلك العظيم خير الدنيا والآخرة and also INNA HATHA LA RIZQUNA MA LAHU MIN NAFAAD ان هذا لرزقنا ما له من نفاد

2. Reciting Sura Al-Waqi'ah every night.

3. Repeating Isteghfaar استغفر الله and Salawaat اللهم صل على محمد وآل محمد

4. Reciting Azan at home with loud voice.

5. Giving Sadaqa every morning and every evening.

6. Being busy in worshiping Allah between Fajr and sunshine.

7. Praying for other believers who are in need but not in front of them.

8. Visiting the graves of your parents and seeking from Allah near their graves.

9. Being with Wudhu as long as you can especially before meals and before going to bed.

10. Reciting Sura Yaseen every day in the morning or any time.

11. Ziyarat Ashura every day.

12. Namaz e Shabb (Night Prayer) صلاة الليل

These are few useful things for increasing the Rizq and there are many more in our books.

Wassalam.