Family

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Is spending on the family the same as giving it away when it comes to money earned inadvertently from a Haram source?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 years ago

It is not permissible to spend any amount which was earned from Haraam source on family or friends. Such money must be given back to the real owner or if unknown or unreachable then to be spent on poor people through the Marje of Taqleed.

Wassalam.

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Family . Women . Makeup . Silat al-Rahm . Hijab

Is it allowed to go a family gathering where women have worn makeup and dressed improperly? And although men and women may be sitting at different tables, there is no barrier. Would it be permissible if not going there would mean severing ties of kinship?

It is very important to have good relationship with your relatives but that should never make you disobey Allah in sitting with females who improperly dressed or wearing makeup. We must avoid such gatherings until the participants make proper sitting arrangement for men and women with out mixing.
Wassalam.

132529

Family . Stress . Silat al-Rahm

My family has always been a major stress on my life. The drama never ends and they treat my wife badly. They also have borrowed money from me numerous times and don't bother to pay me back. Am I obligated to continue speaking to them?

Yes you are obliged to always be keep good relation with them because they are your family from which Allah (SWT) Has created you. Stopping speaking with them will never help you but will increase your problems as well as make you a sinner. Those who cut ties or have bad dealings with their relatives are cursed by Allah in Quran.

Wassalam.

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Man . Wife . Family . Marriage

Can a man marry again secretly without telling his first wife or family?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

If a man was to conduct a secret marriage with another Muslim woman without telling his wife, that nikah he did is considered valid, although it is not advisable in any way, for the many ramifications it will have.

A spousal relationship is based on trust, transparency, commitment and loyalty.

With prayers for your success.

129262

Magic . Father . Family

I got to know someone is doing black magic on my father to destroy him and his family. What can I do to remove the effects from him?

First if all you should have concrete evidence against that person before accusing him of doing black magic, then another concrete evidence that he is doing it against your father. Before have such concrete evidence against that person, you might fall in a major sin of putting allegation on that person.

You have no right to tell any one about what you think about that person before having the concrete evidence against him.

As far as the black magic which you think is done against your father and his family, the remedy is the same whether it was really done by any one or not. Even if it was not done, it is useful to protect your family by the same recitations which are: Sura Al-Falaq and Sura A-Naas to be recited after every prayer and before going to bed three times, as well as Ayatul Kursi. Sadaqa is also very useful in protection from evil.

Wassalam.

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Family . Wedding . Music

My family want me to have a wedding but they want it to be a mixed wedding with music and dancing. What should I do?

We must refrain from any sinful act even if family and friends insist in it. You must refuse any sinful act. No one is more important to obey more than Allah (SWT). We disobey every one but never disobey Allah (SWT).

Wassalam.

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Marriage . Family . Lady Khadija . Prophet Muhammad

What does Hazrat Khadija’s (RA) marriage to the Prophet (pbuh) teach Muslims about family relationships?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 3 years ago

Different people look at a thing and take different lessons from it.

However, one could glean from their marriage that when two people are sincere, mutually self-sacrificing, pool their wealth and talents, and committed to each other and a higher cause, they can accomplish anything!

I am sure there will be some other insights as well.

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Family . Evil . Hypocrisy (Nifaq)

I have come to realise that I am toxic to my family and have a lot of evil hidden within me. However, I am nice to people outside my family and that makes me a hypocrite. How can I reform myself and become a better person?

Read what the Prophet (SAWA) and his Progeny (AS) said about treating your family (Best of you are those who are the best in treating their families).

You need also to read about the bad results of being toxic to your family e.g. miserable situation in the grave, etc.

'We need to be humble inside our hearts and believe that our family members are humans like us and part of us. We deal Wi them as we want them to deal with us. We will enjoy life here and hereafter if we treat others nicely especially our family.

Try to look at the mirror if you become angry, you should calm down because you will see how ugly to be angry.

Keep on seeking forgiveness for the past and seeking help of Allah to make you a nice person with your family.

'Wassalam.

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Family . Silat al-Rahm

What is the ruling for such relatives who are toxic towards you and your family and pass ill comments? Should we be kind towards them all the time or should we take a step back and avoid them?

We should tolerate such relative who is bad to us and be always kind to him as much as we can. We should not behave badly with relatives who misbehave with us. The Hadeeth from the Prophet (SAWA) orders us to do good to all our relatives including and most importantly to those who are bad to us.

Wassalam.

126182

Family . Brother . Handshake

There is a guy who lives with us such that he is now like a family member to us. We treat him like our brother and, as females, we even shake hands with him. Is this allowed in Islam?

It is not allowed to deal with him as a real physical brother. Hijab is must on you in front of him if he is Baaligh and it is Haraam to shake hands with him because he is not your real physical brother.

Wassalam.

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Family . Conversion to Islam . Christianity . Grandparents . Du'a (Supplication)

I am a revert and my family is Christian, mostly Catholic. My grandmother passed away today. What Dua and actions can I perform so that Allah could bless her with entry to paradise?

Bismihi ta'ala

As the holy verse in the Quran says God's mercy encompasses all. You can ask the Almighty to show His mercy upon them, and overlook their shortcomings, etc.

Unfortunately some Muslim groups believe it is haram to prayfor a non-Muslim in any way, but reality is such an approach is difficult for one whose family might not have recognised Islam and be good people.

Just requesting Almighty God to show His mercy would hopefully assist them in their next life.

And Allah knows best.

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Food . Family . Hindusim

Can I eat food with a Hindu friend's family?

It depends whether the food is Najis or not. Najis food is not permissible to consume whether from a Muslim or non Muslim. Najis food means any food which was touched with wetness by a non Muslim (except People of Book according to some Maraaji').

If you know that the food is Najis, it will be not permissible for you to eat it at all.

Wassalam.