Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, forswears recompense from or punishment of the offender, however legally or morally justified it might be, and with an increased ability to wish the offender well. Forgiveness is different from condoning (failing to see the action as wrong and in need of forgiveness), excusing (not holding the offender as responsible for the action), forgetting (removing awareness of the offense from consciousness), pardoning (granted for an acknowledged offense by a representative of society, such as a judge), and reconciliation (restoration of a relationship).

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Parents . Anger . Forgiveness

In the past, I displayed disrespectful behavior and insulted both people and parents. However, they haven't shown anger or sought revenge. Should I interpret this as their forgiveness or do I have to approach each person individually to seek forgiveness?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

Their not taking revenge or not showing anger does not mean that you did not wrong them. We must seek forgiveness from everyone whom we wronged. Without that, we will be accountable in the Day of Judgement which is the hardest day for the sinners.

Wassalam.

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Woman . Adultery . Husband . Children . Marriage . Forgiveness

I am a married woman who committed adultery and I have also informed my husband about it. We have children together and I am seeking a solution for this difficult situation. Is it allowed for my husband to forgive me for the sake of our children?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismhi ta'ala

This is going to be a choice the husband makes. Of course, you must understand how difficult it would be for him to trust you again, or to forget the incident, and it might continue to be brought up, especially if you have an argument.

He might even accuse the children of not being his, and so on.

Therefore, if he forgives you, which is possible from a shar'i perspective, you must both navigate correct solutions to deal with the infidelity and how to avoid it in future, from both sides.

And Allah knows best

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Forgiveness . Theft

How can I seek forgiveness from unknown people I have harmed through theft?

Bismihi ta'ala

After tawbah, if you have access to somehow find them, and won't be harmed, return back items, or their equivalent in money. If not, pay its amount in sadaqah, on their behalf, and pray to Allah for forgiveness.

And Allah knows best.

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Forgiveness . Salah (Prayers) . Qur'an . Sin

Aside from regular prayer and reading the Quran during this holy month, what other actions can someone take to seek Allah's forgiveness for their sins?

1. Serving your parents and making them more happy than usual days. If parents are not alive, then gifting them reward of good deeds like charity , reciting Quran, Majaalis, etc.

2, Treating your relatives in better way than usual and visiting them and gifting them nice gifts.

3. Well treating your family members at home and making them feel more happy than usual days before fasting.

4. Making poor people especially children happy through any good deed. That will make Allah, the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS) more happy with you.

5. Helping every one who needs help as far as you can.

6. Gifting the reward of your good deeds to Ahlul Bayt (AS) especially to Lady Fatima Al-Zahra (AS) and Imam Al-Mahdi (AS).

7. Repeating Estighfaar and doing long Sojood (Prostration) as much as you can.

'Wassalam.

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Number . Forgiveness . Sin . God (Allah)

Is there a limited number of times that you can ask Allah for forgiveness for a sin that is hard to get rid of? How do you know if Allah has given up on you?

Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answered 2 years ago

Bismillah

Thank you for your question.

There is no limit to the number of times we ask forgiveness for something we are struggling with. Allah doesn't give up on us, but we sometimes give up on ourselves.

May you always be successful

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Mother . Anger . Forgiveness

What can I do to prevent Allah (SWT) from punishing me for my mother's anger when I remain silent instead of responding to her shaming and ridiculing behavior, which leads her to hold a grudge for days and makes it difficult for me to apologize to her?

First of all, you should never think that you should deal with your mother or father like dealing with others. Parents are above all others and you should always deal with them as your masters after Allah and Ahlul Bayt, and never think them equal to you or similar.. When your parent get angry at you, you must apologize immediately in the way which makes them pleased with you. Never think apologizing to your parents an insult but it is in fact an honor. The Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS) guided the believers to Beal with their parents like a slave dealing with his masters. Such humbleness with parents grants you a status in this life and Hereafter. If you read the supplication for the parents in the Sahiba Sajjadia,bayou will see how we need to deal with our parents mistakes by complete submission and tolerance.

‘You must try your best to make your parents happy with you as they are your origin and the cause of your creation in this life.

‘Forget you ego in front of your parents and deal with them as an obedient servant as far as they don’t order you to do wrong.

Wassalam.

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Forgiveness . Sin

When I was 14 or 15 I used to question the Quran and the Prophet with unspeakable things. Now that I am 17 I deeply regret it and wish it had never happened. Is there anyway I can ask Allah for forgiveness for the horrible sin I have committed?

Allah is The Best Forging and The Most Merciful. You seek from Him to forgive you and protect you from Satan and Satanic thoughts and acts. Allah Knows what is in our hearts and Grants His Mercy and Forgiveness to the sincere believers who really repent their sins and decide not to do it again.

Wassalam.

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Forgiveness . Sin . Sexual

If a boy has intercourse outside marriage while knowing it was not allowed, how should he seek forgiveness for the sin?

Fornication is a major sin which is mentioned in Quran in Sura Al-Furqan, verse 68 : And those who never invoke any other god but Allah, nor kill any soul which Allah Has forbidden. Nor fornicate, and whoever does this shall receive sever punishment).

Forgiveness needs sincere feeling of sorrow and repentance, and firm decision not to do it again and begging to Allah to forgive.

Wassalam.

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Fajr . Children . Forgiveness

I regularly pray Fajr and am responsible to wake my children up for Fajr as well. But on rare occasion I have missed Fajr due to not waking up to the alarm or forgetting to set the alarm at night. What steps should I take to seek Allah’s forgiveness?

It is a sinful act to deliberately miss any obligatory Prayer. If it happens for any reason, we need to sincerely seek forgiveness after deciding not to do the sin again, then begging to Allah, The Most Merciful, to forgive us. Allah (SWT) like those who repent and sincerely seek purification. (2:222).

Wassalam.

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Hereafter . Forgiveness . Sin . Conversion to Islam

What advice would you give to recent reverts to Islam who feel the weight of their numerous major sins and are really pessimistic about their fate in the hereafter despite saying “I’m sorry my lord” and then moving on?

The best answer is from Allah in Quran : Say O My servants who have transgressed against themselves ( by committing evil deeds and sins) Despair not of the Mercy of Allah. Verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly He is The Oft-forgiving , The Most Merciful) Sura 39, Verse 53.

The Mercy of Allah (SWT) is much greater than our imagination. It includes every thing (My Mercy embraces everything) Sura 7, Verse 156. Special mercy is for sincere servants servants of Allah who left wrong deeds and repented and sincerely decided not to do it again. Allah Love those who repent and purify themselves. Sura 2, Verse 222.

We need to trust The Mercy of Allah and hope to receive His Oft-Forgiveness. He Has Promised every one who repents and sincerely seeks forgiveness to Grant him His Forgiveness.

'It is good to repeat (YA ARHAM ARRAHIMEEN) also to repeat (YA GHAFOUR YA RAHEEM).

Wassalam.

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Parents . Death . God (Allah) . Forgiveness . Divine Guidance . Paradise . Salah (Prayers)

My parents are Muslim but they don't pray. Is it permissible for me to ask Allah (swt) to forgive my parents, and to guide and grant them Jannah? And can I keep praying for a Muslim even after his death?

Yes it is very good to pray for the guidance and forgiveness of your parents.

It is also allowed to pray for deceased Muslim for forgiveness and mercy from Allah (SWT).

Wassalam.

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Akhlaq . Forgiveness

I did something wrong with a stranger and now I want to apologise for my behaviour but I do not know him nor his address. What should I do now?

If you no way to reach or contact him to seek apology, you should repeatedly pray for him and seek from Allah to forgive him and grant him from His Mercy.
Wassalam.