Marriage

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a culturally and often legally recognised union between people called spouses. It establishes rights and obligations between them, as well as between them and their children (if any), and between them and their in-laws. It is nearly a cultural universal, but the definition of marriage varies between cultures and religions, and over time.

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Marriage . Ahl al-Bayt . Islamic Culture

Is it permissible to marry a woman from a different culture, such as marrying an Iraqi woman as a Khoja man? Are there any recommendations or views from the Ahlulbayt (a) regarding this type of marriage?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 years ago

The Hadeeth from the Prophet (SAWA) states: The believing man is computable to the believing woman المؤمن كفؤ المؤمنة.

The Prophet himself (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS) did marry from different cultures as the criteria is never the culture but the faith and religious piousness.

Wassalam.

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Woman . Marriage . Dowry . Mut'a (Temporary marriage)

If I marry a Muslim woman in a temporary marriage and then marry that same woman in a permanent marriage, do I need to give her the dowry twice for both the temporary and the permanent marriage?

Yes if course. Every marriage agreements must have a dowry. The temporary marriage has its dowry and the permanent marriage has its dowry as well.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Marriage . Son . Woman . Morality . Divorce . Infant . Obedience

What are the reasons, apart from religious or moral criteria, that parents can use to reject a marriage of their son with a divorced woman who has a baby? And what is the obligation on the son to obey their decision?

Matured man is allowed to marry the female whom he chooses if she is suitable as far as her religion and morals. Man does need permission of his parents in marriage unlike virgin girl who definitely needs permission from her father or paternal grand father.

keeping the respect of the parents is essential.

Wassalam.

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Rape . Marriage

How can I navigate the situation where a Muslim guy I met in college, with whom I have a good relationship, is hesitant to marry me solely because I am a victim of rape? What steps can I take to address this issue?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 3 years ago

I am sorry to hear about your situation.

I wanted to add that it would not be a good thing if, after the marriage, the man holds onto this idea and becomes obsessed with it or brings it up in every argument or uses it as an excuse for other behaviour. You have already suffered and don't need someone to make you continue to suffer for the rest of your life. Plus, you deserve someone who will appreciate you for all you are, not someone who is having hesitations! Perhaps he will mature later in life, since, when we judge people unfairly, life has a way of teaching us lessons.

Meanwhile, there are other fish in the sea!

Rape . Marriage

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

It is sad to hear what happened to you, and through your Iman and reliance on Allah ta'ala, you will become stronger and stronger, not allowing the evil incident to define who you are.

If this man cannot accept you for that, and you are upfront and genuine about everything, even if there might be lapses of emotional distraught or something that affects you due to the trauma, but yet he is still hesitant, then he is no good for you at all.

You should not see yourself of less value, nor should you accept someone who sees you as "broken", or anything negative of that sort.

Limit your interaction with this person, and focus more on yourself, and your relationship with Almighty God, who will facilitate the best of things for you and your future, in shaa Allah.

With prayers for your success.

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Death . Husband . Marriage . Sabr (Patience)

After the sudden death of my husband, people suggest that I should remarry to cope with life's challenges. However, I believe that the hardships are a test of my patience so that I may deserve eternal companionship with him in the afterlife. Am I right?

I am sorry to hear about your loss.

It is your decision whether or not to remarry. Now that your husband has passed on, I am sure he would want you to be happy and more secure for the rest of your life.

However, possibly you are still going through the mourning process and aren't ready; maybe if you meet the right person and it is the right time, you will feel inside that it is the right time. Maybe the way you are seeing things right now suggests that it isn't quite the right time.

Religiously speaking, there is no benefit to putting extra restrictions on ourselves or making ourselves suffer more than our circumstances require. Sometimes people do this with a sense that Allah rewards difficulty. However, life is difficult enough without putting extra restrictions on ourselves!

People in jannah can be with whoever they want, whether or not they remarry.

With duas

Death . Husband . Marriage . Sabr (Patience)

Bismihi ta'ala

As sad as it may be to lose a spouse, remarrying is completely your choice, and it will not undermine your loyalty to your marhum husband. Loneliness is never good, so if the opportunity arises that you can marry a noble, caring, pious and religious man, you should do so. This will certainly not affect who you will be in the afterlife, in Heaven, in shaa Allah.

Life is challenging, and having a partner of good choice will assist you in everything coming ahead of you, in shaa Allah.

And Allah knows best

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Woman . Adultery . Husband . Children . Marriage . Forgiveness

I am a married woman who committed adultery and I have also informed my husband about it. We have children together and I am seeking a solution for this difficult situation. Is it allowed for my husband to forgive me for the sake of our children?

Bismhi ta'ala

This is going to be a choice the husband makes. Of course, you must understand how difficult it would be for him to trust you again, or to forget the incident, and it might continue to be brought up, especially if you have an argument.

He might even accuse the children of not being his, and so on.

Therefore, if he forgives you, which is possible from a shar'i perspective, you must both navigate correct solutions to deal with the infidelity and how to avoid it in future, from both sides.

And Allah knows best

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School . Friendship . Adolescence . Marriage . Mahram

As a teenager attending a mixed school, how can I maintain a positive relationship with others, especially non-Mahrams, while avoiding physical contact and maintaining appropriate boundaries in friendship?

Bismihi ta'ala

I have a presentation from two Ramadhans ago on this that might be useful for you in answering your question.

Starts from 1h:38min

https://www.youtube.com/live/f6LNDmA6vBk?feature=share

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Parents . Education . Predestination . Marriage

My parents are forcing me to get married to someone I don't want to marry. They say they will no longer pay for my education if I don't get married. What should I do?

Bismihi ta'ala

Your parents cannot force you to marry anyone. Islamically, it will not be a valid nikah marriage as well.

If they are threatening you with such things like not funding your education, then let it be, but you should not give in to marrying someone you do not wish to marry.

Speak to an elder in your family, or your local scholar, so they are able to address this with your parents, as long as you are safe. If you feel unsafe, then you must make measures to secure your safety.

This kind of behaviour from parents is completely unacceptable, oppressive, and anyone around you who knows of it must help you.

With prayers for your success.

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Parents . Consent . Marriage

Can a couple marry if the lady's parents do not consent but have no valid reason for rejection?

If the rejection of the girl is not based in a valid reason in Islam, and the girl needs the marriage to save herself from falling in to sin, she will be then allowed to get married to a suitable Momin man whom she trusts in his faith and morals.

Wassalam.

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Sayyid . Marriage . Daughter . Imam Musa al-Kazim

Some people claim that Imam Musa Al-Kadhim (as) did not marry his daughters because there were no Sayyids available, using this as evidence that a Sayyida cannot marry a non-Sayyid. Is this true?

This claim is not true. Great Sadat scholars including Maraaje' of Taqleed, have allowed marriage of their daughters with non Sayyed Momins. The claim mentioned in your question came from certain culture with no concrete evidence in religion.

'Wassalam.

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