Marriage

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a culturally and often legally recognised union between people called spouses. It establishes rights and obligations between them, as well as between them and their children (if any), and between them and their in-laws. It is nearly a cultural universal, but the definition of marriage varies between cultures and religions, and over time.

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Mahram . Marriage . Woman

Are my spouse's grand-uncles and great-grand-uncles Mahram to me after marriage and are a woman’s grand uncles Mahram for her? Please mention any differing opinions among our Marajeh if there are any.

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 11 months ago

As the real uncles are Mahrams, great grand uncles are Mahram as well.

This applies for husband and wife.

Wassalam.

196902

Woman . Khula . Divorce . Marriage

Is it possible for a woman to remarry the same man after obtaining a Khula without having to marry someone else first, as is typically required in a divorce?

She can remarry the same man after she invalidates the Khul’a by talking back what she gave to him,then the Khul’a will turn into usual Talaq and then she can re marry to him. Most people misunderstand the meaning if Khula and think that it a one sided divorce from the wife to her husband. Khul’a in fact is a type of Talaq in which the wife gives an amount to her husband to make agree to divorce her, i.e. she pays him to free her from the bond of marriage. If she takes back what she gave him, the Khul’a will be invalid and the divorce will be a usual one Talaq.

Wassalam.

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Istikhara . Qur'an . Marriage

I did Istikhara about marrying a girl I have known for almost two years, who appears religious and respectful. The result was Surah Al-A'raf, Ayah 150, mentioning 'Moses was angry.' Does this indicate a neutral or negative outcome for my Istikhara?

The scholar who did the Istikhara should be able to explain to you the result of it. If you are sure that the person is good in her religion and manners, then you can go ahead after paying a Sadaqa for more blessings.

Wassalam.

196622

Father . Khula . Wife . Life . Mother . Children . Marriage

Can a father not meet his child after having a Khula from wife and wait till he gets married and gets settled in his own life, as the child is in different country with her mother?

Islam does not allow anything which makes the child away from his parents. Cutting ties with any of the relatives is a sinful act, what about with the parents??

Even if the mother is divorced from the father, the rights of both of them on the child remain intact and both of them must maintain continuous contact between themselves child and his both parents. Father remains responsible to spend on his children till they are able to earn their livelihood.

Wassalam.

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Girl . History . Istikhara . Marriage . Dream

Should a girl marry a man she has feelings for and a history with, despite his weak religious commitment, especially if her Istikhara and dreams suggest positivity? She has repented and seeks a partner with strong Islamic values but struggles to let go.

She should consider that the most important criteria for a good life partner is religion and manners. Weak religious commitments can lead to possible dangerous results in the life especially after few years. What can stop him in the future from looking for other affairs if his religious commitments are weak?

I don't advise her to marry a person who is weak in his faith and religious practice even if she has feelings and history with him. The feelings will never remain for long if there is no authenticity in faith and trust in religion.

Wassalam.

194798

Parents . Marriage

What steps can I take if my parents disapprove of my marriage choice due to their bias against a revert, claiming he and his parents' religion make him unsuitable, even though there is no valid Islamic reason for their rejection?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 1 year ago

It is difficult to give recommendations without knowing the full circumstances of the case. It is advisable to get a senior scholar, or cleric, to meet with your parents and discuss the issue with them.

You may have heard the hadith that says that if a believer comes to ask for the hand of a young woman, and he is rejected for no Islamic reason, 'fitnah will spread on the earth.'

Cultural and family issues require sensitivity though. Your parents, and his parents need to be helped to overcome their fears. I knew of an English woman who married into a family and her mother-in-law initially threatened suicide, but after some years, all the other families in their community were saying that they wished they had a daughter-in-law like that English woman.

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Man . Sleep . Mother . Marriage

Is it acceptable for a married man to sleep beside his mother, cuddle her, or kiss her face, especially when his mother expects him to spend nights in her room and involves him in activities like back massages and Hajama appointments?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 year ago

Bismihi ta'āla

Men and women, mahram or non-mahram, must always observe boundaries between each other. With mahram, the boundaries are less, but there still are boundaries.

Most of what you have mentioned in your question is crossing the boundary, or should be avoided, so as to not all into haram.

We cannot say he might have incestuous tendency, but it is not normal behaviour for a son to sleep right beside his mother and spend nights in her room, etc. He might have more feminine tendency, hence these activities, but it is also his mother to be responsible for this as well.

I would advise someone have a talk with both of them, about boundaries, and the possible shaytani influence that could corrupt anyone.

And Allah knows best

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Iddah . Marriage . Woman . Hysterectomy . Mut'a (Temporary marriage) . Menstruation (Haidh)

Is it true that a post-menopausal woman is not required to observe Iddah after marriage, whether permanent or temporary? Does this rule also extend to women of any age who have undergone a hysterectomy and no longer menstruate?

Yes, post-menopausal woman does not require to observe Iddah after divorce or termination of a temporary marriage. This rule is only for those women who have no menstruation because of their passing the age of menstruation. This rule does not extend to women who had hysterectomy and no longer menstruate. Such women who are in the age of menstruation require Iddah.

It is worth mentioning that Iddah of Wafat after the death of the husband is obligatory on every wife. It is four months and ten days from her knowledge about his death.

Wassalam.

194593

Zina . Marriage

If one commits non-penetrative Zina with a virgin lady, are they obliged to marry each other?

Zina is a major sin which has sever punishment in hellfire. Committing such major sin does not oblige the person who committed it to marry the woman or girl with whom he has committed the Zina.

Wassalam.

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Haram . Marriage . Secrecy . Marriage

Is it permissible to conduct a secret Nikkah with someone and later have a public Nikkah, instead of engaging in a Haram relationship?

Bismihi ta'āla

It is mustahab to conduct nikah publicly, with witnesses attending. Marriage should not be concealed and secret. If, for some reason, you want to do this, you must make sure you meet all the requirements, especially in that the bride needs consent from her father, if she has never been married.

If you both meet the conditions, you can do a temporary contract, to avoid haram, and keep that secret, and then have a public Nikah. Of course, if you do that, prior to the public nikah, you must nullify the temporary contract.

And Allah knows best

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Marriage . Du'a (Supplication)

I want to marry this lady. Initially, she was interested, but after many problems, she gave up, saying she will marry me only if Allah wants it to happen. I want to make Dua to Allah for us, but am I setting myself up for disappointment?

Bismihi ta'āla

Yes, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. You cannot force yourself onto someone, especially if it seems they are not interested. Your dua to Allah ta'ala should be in asking Him to do what is best for you, and for you to evaluate the situation using reason and common sense.

And Allah knows best

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Woman . Zina . Marriage . Christianity . Pregnancy . Repentance (Tawbah)

Can a Muslim man marry a Christian woman with whom he has committed Zina if they both sincerely repent and refrain from Zina afterwards? Additionally, what steps should she take to repent as a Christian?

Bismihi ta'āla

If she was unmarried, he can do a temporary contract with her. As for permanent marriage, most of our esteemed scholars say both must be Muslim.

And Allah knows best

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