Parents

A parent is a caregiver of the offspring in their own species. In humans, a parent is the caretaker of a child (where "child" refers to offspring, not necessarily age). A biological parent is a person whose gamete resulted in a child, a male through the sperm, and a female through the ovum.

201004

Parents . Family . Marriage . Sunni-Shi'a

Is it Islamic for my parents to prevent me from marrying a Lebanese Shia man from a respectable and religious family just because of his nationality, despite our compatibility and my desire to make our existing relationship Halal?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 5 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

In our Islamic tradition and culture, relationships are not just personal and individual. It is the coming together of two families. It should not be done without proper consent and blessings from both sides.

You do not want to jepordise your relationship with your parents. They might be from an older generation that thinks differently, and therefore, try to negotiate these things through the help of elders and your local scholars.

You cannot be in an 'existing' relationship if there is no marriage. You do not want the beginning of your married life to be in haram. That will never end good for you, or him.

And Allah knows best

200469

Haram . Income . Family . Parents . Students

I am currently relying on food and water from Haram income sources due to family circumstances, and I have little control over it. As a student without job options, how should I address this issue with my parents without causing negative repercussions?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 5 months ago

You should not think that the income of your family is Haraam before having definite and clear evidence.

If you don't have a definite evidence that it is from Haraam source, you will permissible to utilise it. If you have a definite clear evidence that all the income is from Haraam source, then you have to avoid Haraam as much as you can.

Wassalam

198170

Girl . Parents . Sadness . Marriage . Sin

If a chaste girl chooses not to marry, despite being respectful to her parents and financially independent, is she considered to be sinning because it causes her parents sadness?

She is not obliged or bound to marry if she has valid reasons to refrain from marriage, but she must keep her parents' respect and never cause them or any one of them any sort of disrespect or sadness.

Wassalam.

196849

Sister . Parents . Brother . Life

What actions can I take as a sister if I observe my parents making poor decisions regarding my brother and not holding him accountable, despite having discussed with them my concerns about the impact of their choices on his life?

You as a sister, have to power nor authority on your brother's life. The best you can do is advising him in a nice way which can be accepted by him. As far as your parents decisions, you should keep full respect for them and if you have a suggestion, you should be very polite in presenting your suggestions to your parents. If you feel that their decisions regarding your brother's life are not correct, you try to explain your opinion to them in a very polite way and you can request respected other family members to talk to your parents in a nice way.

Wassalam.

194798

Parents . Marriage

What steps can I take if my parents disapprove of my marriage choice due to their bias against a revert, claiming he and his parents' religion make him unsuitable, even though there is no valid Islamic reason for their rejection?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 9 months ago

It is difficult to give recommendations without knowing the full circumstances of the case. It is advisable to get a senior scholar, or cleric, to meet with your parents and discuss the issue with them.

You may have heard the hadith that says that if a believer comes to ask for the hand of a young woman, and he is rejected for no Islamic reason, 'fitnah will spread on the earth.'

Cultural and family issues require sensitivity though. Your parents, and his parents need to be helped to overcome their fears. I knew of an English woman who married into a family and her mother-in-law initially threatened suicide, but after some years, all the other families in their community were saying that they wished they had a daughter-in-law like that English woman.

192855

Daughter . Alcohol . Parents . Pakistan . Sayyid

If a Muslim Syed daughter living abroad engages in activities like drinking alcohol, having a boyfriend, and wearing inappropriate clothing, are parents in Pakistan obligated to financially support her living and accommodation?

Parents are responsible to do every thing possible to protect their children from evil deeds and harmful company. If they are sure that their financial support will be used in sinful acts, they should refrain from supporting the wrong. They should everything possible to save their daughter from wrong.

Wassalam.

105508

House . Wife . Children . Parents

I am a Muslim man, unemployed and living with my wife, three children, and mother-in-law, whom we care for. However, she mistreats me and constantly curses me and my parents. What actions should I take in this situation?

You need to tolerate her mistreatment and continue serving her and caring for her. Your tolerating her mistreatment will increase your reward.Wassalam.

191571

Man . Parents . Marriage Proposal . Wealth

I have feelings for someone who has brought me closer to Allah and the Ahlulbayt. He has been meeting my parents' requirements for three years by moving abroad and securing a job, yet they disapprove because he is not wealthy. What should I do?

You can try to convince them that wealth is not a valid condition for happy marriage. Marriage conditions are good faith religion and good manners. It might take you time to convince your parents mainly your father, but you have to try your best.

You can also request good persons who are respected by your parents to try to talk to your parents to convince them.

Wassalam.

191563

Parents . Hindusim . Conversion to Islam

As someone who converted to Islam 30 years ago from Hinduism, can I pray to Allah for my deceased Hindu parents and brother? Would that be permissible in my current faith?

Muslim can pray to Allah (SWT) to Shower His Mercy on his parents and family members. This is according to many leading Ulama.

Wassalam.

189806

Sunni . Woman . Parents . Consent . Marriage Proposal

Is it allowed for a Sunni Muslim woman to marry a Shia Muslim man without her parents' consent if they are opposed to the marriage proposal on account of sectarian prejudice?

Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb, Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb has a BA in Law from Guilan University, Iran and has also undertaken Hawzah studies in Qom. He used to be a Cultural Affairs director of Ethics Group of Al-Mustafa... Answered 1 year ago

Wa Aleikum Assalam
Not allowed for her if her father's permission is required in their Mazhab(school of Fiqh).

189241

Parents . Money

If parents are financially well-off, is it acceptable for them to insist on monthly financial contributions from their sons, especially knowing that this requirement causes financial hardship for the sons?

When parents are in need, it puts a responsibility on their earning sons to support them. Spending on the parents is obligatory not just recommended. When parents expect financial assistance from their sons, it means that they are in need of that assistance. You can not claim that your parents are well off and don’t need your financial assistance as far as they ask you to assist them. You must do your best to assist them even if you have your own financial challenges. Best place to spend is to assist your parents then your relatives then other needy and deserving persons.

Wassalam.

189072

Parents

What should I do if one of my parents strongly wants me to pursue a career I don't desire, and they become upset when I express my feelings about it?

You must keep respecting your parents in every situation but your career is your own choice and no one can force you on a career against your own feelings. You must maintain a balance between your basic right to pursue your selected career, and keeping your parents feel respected and never cause them feel ignored by you or been looked down by people.

Wassalam.