Parents

A parent is a caregiver of the offspring in their own species. In humans, a parent is the caretaker of a child (where "child" refers to offspring, not necessarily age). A biological parent is a person whose gamete resulted in a child, a male through the sperm, and a female through the ovum.

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Shirk . Parents

Is it considered shirk to claim credit as parents for providing food, raising children, and providing shelter, even though Allah is the one truly responsible for these actions?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

No, it would not be considered shirk, and you can claim these privileges, and still rely on Allah ta'ala. However, you should learn not to rely on others for sustenance, and work and gain an income.

Try to proceed in life with learning independence, work and be content with what you have.

And Allah knows best

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Sunni . Girl . Marriage . Parents . Society . Sunni-Shi'a

Is it acceptable for me to marry a Sunni girl who intends to convert to Shia Islam after marriage despite my parents' disapproval due to societal concerns?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

Many people promise before marriage to embrace Islam or Shia Islam after marriage, just to get married with whom they want to marry, but they fail to fulfill the promise after marriage especially after passing years after marriage or after matrimonial misunderstands which are usual between couples. You must be sure the non Shia girl who wants to be married to you is really ready to follow Ahlul Bayt (AS) not for the sake of marriage but for the sake of Allah to a follower of Islam of the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS).

Your parents might have this concern and don't wish to see you in trouble in the future.

'If this girl is ready to follow Ahlul Bayt (AS) for sake of the Truth, she should start following Ahlul Bayt (AS) now and not wait. That should indicate her intentions and might help your parents to believe that she is a sincere person in her promise.

'Wassalam.

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Girl . Sunni . Parents . Marriage . Sayyid

Can a Sayyed girl marry a Sunni boy? What is the ruling in Islam about this matter? If it is allowed, but the parents do not agree, then what can be done?

Bismihi ta'ala

A Sayyid male/female is like every other Muslim, nad can marry a non-Sayyid/non-Sayyidah, Shi'ah or Sunni, with no difference. The one condition is she has assurance that she will not leave the Ahlul Bayt School of Thought, or negatively influenced or forced to become Sunni.

As for parents disapproval, there must be correct understanding between families, and one must always try to get the consent and blessings of parents.

And Allah knows best.

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Parents . Anger . Forgiveness

In the past, I displayed disrespectful behavior and insulted both people and parents. However, they haven't shown anger or sought revenge. Should I interpret this as their forgiveness or do I have to approach each person individually to seek forgiveness?

Their not taking revenge or not showing anger does not mean that you did not wrong them. We must seek forgiveness from everyone whom we wronged. Without that, we will be accountable in the Day of Judgement which is the hardest day for the sinners.

Wassalam.

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Hijab . Parents

What are some effective approaches for explaining Hijab to my non-Muslim parents residing in South America?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 2 years ago

Personally, I try to keep it simple and say that it is for (a) modesty, and/or (b) because Islamic law says to do it. You could also say that (c) because it is something you want to do and is important to you.

The aforementioned statements may also be suitable for you to say, however it is important to say them in such a way that would not imply that you are criticizing your mother. (For instance, if you say that hijab adds dignity, you would not want to say it in such a way which would imply that your mother has less dignity, because she does not wear hijab.) It is often how we say things that is as important as what we actually say!

However, if they are religious Catholics, mentioning the Virgin Mary might be a helpful way to connect.

I am sure that in your heart, you know what is best to say for your situation - what comes from the heart reaches the heart.

Best wishes!

Hijab . Parents

What are some effective approaches for explaining Hijab to my non-Muslim parents residing in South America?

Hijab adds on the dignity of the female.

'Hijab adds on her respect and security as she will be known as a modest and pious person protected by Hijab, then bad men will not target her as they target other females.

'Hijab has been practiced in all religions and cultures by pious females like St Mary and all her followers from the females.

'Hijab is the dress ordered by The Creator of life, Who Knows what is good for man and woman.

Hijab is a way to achieve peace of mind and self respect and tranquility.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Istikhara . Family . Marriage Proposal

My parents conducted Istikhara for a proposal that came out positive. Though my parents know the guy and his family, there is a 13-year age gap and I lack attraction towards him. As such, I am feeling uncertain, will refusing lead to future regret?

Bismihi ta'ala

You and your family should not rely on istikharah for making the decision of marriage. Istikharah should not be the primary tool to be used for marriage selection.

The age gap that you mentioned is not really a major issue, and could be overlooked, if there is compatibility and commonalities and attraction towards each other.

However, as you said there is no attraction, and you do not have that certainty in this marriage proposal, then I would recommend you not rush into this, and not allow your parents to pressure you.

You have every right to decline this proposal as well, and if you are doing the right thing, you wont need to regret in the future.

For marriage, the important thing is him being religious, having good morals, good reputation, and there being compatibility between you and him.

Sit with him, once or twice, or even three times, and ask the right questions, especially about future plans and what your ambitions and goals are, and how his views agree with you or not, and then make your decision. Not based on istikharah, but based on the information you have.

With prayers for your success.

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Parents . Marriage

Despite discussing the matter with my parents, they have shown no interest in considering my marriage at the age of 24 in order to prioritize my studies. What steps can I take to address the situation?

Your parents' respected friends can try to explain to your parents your need to get married to get settled and to protect yourself. When marriage is the only way to save a person from falling in sinning, marriage does not remain a recommended act but it becomes an obligatory because saving ourself from sinning is an obligatory.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Cousin . Milk . Sister . Family . Mother

Is it permissible for my parents to be considered as my maternal cousin's own parents, given that she is my milk sister and is living with us as a family member due to her mother's passing?

Milk daughter is not allowed to marry with her milk father nor her milk brother, but she does not have a share in inheritance like a real daughter unless by a will and within the limit of the one third. As she is living with your family due to her mothers passing away, you and all your family members should give her all moral support and look after her in every possible way.
Wassalam.

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Parents . Majlis

If someone's parents forbid them from attending Majalis without a rational excuse, is it permissible for the person to attend Majalis behind their parents' backs?

You should never hurt the feelings of your parents nor cause them feel insulted or ignored.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Marriage . Son . Woman . Morality . Divorce . Infant . Obedience

What are the reasons, apart from religious or moral criteria, that parents can use to reject a marriage of their son with a divorced woman who has a baby? And what is the obligation on the son to obey their decision?

Matured man is allowed to marry the female whom he chooses if she is suitable as far as her religion and morals. Man does need permission of his parents in marriage unlike virgin girl who definitely needs permission from her father or paternal grand father.

keeping the respect of the parents is essential.

Wassalam.

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Children . Animals . Parents

What should I do if children in my locality intentionally harm animals, even after I've tried talking to them and informing their parents, but no one seems to care?

We can not force others to stop doing wrong. We should try our best to make them stop harming the animals, but we can not force them. After trying our best, we will not be responsible of what others do.

Wassalam.