Marriage

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a culturally and often legally recognised union between people called spouses. It establishes rights and obligations between them, as well as between them and their children (if any), and between them and their in-laws. It is nearly a cultural universal, but the definition of marriage varies between cultures and religions, and over time.

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Marriage . School . Sin . Students . Mut'a (Temporary marriage)

I feel that marriage is Wajib on me due to my indulgence in sins but, as a 17 year old school student, what can I do? Shouldn't there be some kind of Mutah marriage bureau for troubled teens?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 years ago

You should seek advice from trusted scholars and persons in your area.

Young persons who are unable to marry are been advised to keep fasting as many days as they can. Fasting helps making them more able to control themselves.

Wassalam.

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Islam . Marriage . Man . Property . Marriage Proposal . Loan

Is it allowed in Islam to reject a marriage proposal because the man does not own any property and is in debt?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 4 years ago

A woman is not required to marry a man just because he wants to marry her. She is also not required to give a reason for refusing. Marriage is optional.

The opposite is also true - that is, a man is not required to marry a woman just because she wants to marry him, and he is also not required to give a reason for refusing.

The idea a woman must give her life over to a man simply because he asks - unless she had a reasonable excuse - would indeed be an astonishing form of male privilege.

Islam . Marriage . Man . Property . Marriage Proposal . Loan

Is it allowed in Islam to reject a marriage proposal because the man does not own any property and is in debt?

Main criteria for marriage in Islam is religious practice and good morals. Financial status is not among the main conditions. In fact the Prophet (SAWA) proposed a marriage between very poor person ( Jowaibir) and a very rich woman (Al-Dhalfaa').

The man should be able to earn livelihood for him and his wife and live with his wife with dignity.

Wassalam.

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Marriage . Ghibah

Is it permissible to tell a friend something negative about a person they are interested for marriage? Would it be considered Gheebah?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 4 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

It could even be obligatory to inform the friend about what you know about the person. Of course, you must make sure your information is accurate, and also it somehow does not backfire onto you.

It would not be considered as gheebah.

I would just advice it be done in a very diplomatic way, so as to avoid any problems from any side.

And Allah knows best.

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Marriage . Mut'a (Temporary marriage) . Menstruation (Haidh) . Conversion to Islam

Does a Muta end automatically at the end of the period or does one have to say or do something? How can a couple convert it into permanent marriage?

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, the temporary marriage contract is automatically terminated once the time period ends.

One cannot have two contracts at one time, so if the couple agreed to have permanent contract, and the temporary contract is over, they can do the permanent contract. If they are still in the temporary contract, the male says to the female: "I release you for the remaining period", and once he says that, they can do the permanent marriage, as long as all other requirements are met.

And Allah knows best.

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Girl . Islam . Husband . Marriage . Hindusim . Children . God (Allah)

I am a Muslim girl who married a Hindu and have kids. I follow Islam and am raising my kids as Muslim. I am happy with my husband but not happy emotionally as I feel I went against Allah. What should I do?

1. When you know that Allah does not allow any marriage between a Muslim female and a non Muslim man and you write that "you feel that you went against Allah", you must repent and seek forgiveness and come back to Allah and never insist on doing wrong.

2. If you can convince the man and explain to him how to become a Muslim, then you need to recite a marriage agreement (Nikah) between you and him after becoming a Muslim in his heart.

3. If he refuses to become a Muslim, then there is no way that you can remain with him.

4. You must save yourself and your future from sinful acts.

Wassalam.

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Islam . Love . Marriage

What does Islam say about love marriage?

Islam has some matters that are fixed and other matters that are flexible. If Islam did not have any flexibility, and only prescribed one rigid standard for every matter of life, it would not have been able to spread to different cultures, time periods, and ways of living.

So, with respect to marriage, Islam prescribes certain things, such as performing a marriage contract, forbidding incestuous marriages, and abstaining from adultery.

However, it does not prescribe whether or not a marriage should be a "love marriage".

This allows for accommodation between different individuals, cultures, situations, and lifestyles.

However, some Muslims are very sensitive on this point due to a sense of cultural clash, or cultural warfare, and feel it is necessary to preserve one approach to marriage or another as "the Islamic view".

As for what sort of marriage succeeds best, perhaps this has more to do with certain compatibility factors, a mutual spirit of commitment, and the support that the society offers for marriage and family life - some countries are more family-friendly than others.

Islam . Love . Marriage

What does Islam say about love marriage?

Islam is the word of Allah to guide mankind to peaceful and happy life. Marriage is a human need which aims not only to continue the human generations but also to provide peace and tranquility. Islam guides to be careful in selecting in marriage and keeps two main criteria which are: Religious practice and morals, as the Hadeeth says: إذا جاءكم من ترضون دينه وخُلُقَهُ فزَوِّجوه

We also have Hadeeth to guide men in selecting a wife stating to select a religious women, you will then gain a great treasure. فاظفَر بِذاتِ الدين تَرِبَت يداك

Love marriage depends on the reasons of the love and whether the love is caused by desires only or logical reasons as well. Desires will never remain forever but rational reasons remain. If the reasons behind love are supported by rational evidence that the marriage will remain and form a good and peaceful family, then such love marriage is good. But if the love is blind as it is said, and does not have insight for the future, then we have to be careful. Millions of love marriages ended in divorce or in miserable situations. Though it is not the case in every love marriage but in many.

Love only as an emotion can never justify marriage nor guarantee a successful future, unless there are reasonable or satisfactory factors to support the future harmony in understanding the aims of life and the way to achieve it according to the orders of Allah (SWT).

Love between husband and his wife is a great bounty from Allah and it is from the great signs of Allah as we read in Quran: (And among His signs that He created for you mates from you (humans) so that you get in them tranquility, and He put between you affection and mercy)Sura 30, verse 21.

Love which remains is essential for marriage even if it grows after marriage but love which does not remain is a misguiding desire. We need our youth to build their family life on permanent love which continues.

Wassalam,

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Marriage . Sayyida Fatimah al-Zahra' . Imam Ali b. Abi Talib

What was the age of Fatima Zahra (sa) when she married Imam Ali (a)?

It is said that Fatima al-Zahra (A) and Imam 'Ali (A) got married in the second year after the migration to Medina, after the Battle of Badr (so approximately 624 AD)

However, biographers do not agree about when Fatima al-Zahra (A) was born. Sunni biographers often say she was born around 605 AD, whereas Shi'i biographers often say she was born around 614-615 AH. There are some other views as well.

So, she would have been around nine or nineteen years old at the time of her marriage.

It seems reasonable that she would have married young since men are eager to seek the daughters of important men for marriage, and it is reported that others had already asked for her hand. But God knows best.

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Iddah . Mut'a (Temporary marriage) . Marriage

I did Mutah with a girl without being sure of the applicability of the Iddah on her as she had been away from her husband for 4 months. I was also not aware that marrying someone during the Iddah makes us both Haram for each other. What should I do now?

Bismihi ta'ala

The question you are asking is not very clear.

Are you saying 4 months of 'iddah of divorce, after her husband had officially divorced her?

If this was the case, her 'iddah is 3 menstrual cycles.

Or are you saying she was away from her husband, and Islamic divorce was not officially conducted, but due to her absence from him, you considered her to be divorced by default and the 4 months as an 'iddah.

If this is the case, she is not divorced, and she had no 'iddah, and your mut'ah with her was invalid, and you are not allowed to ever be with her.

What you should do is avoid any relationship with her until you can verify the information and the circumstances, and then act accordingly, in shaa Allah.

And Allah knows best.

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Wife . Marriage . Girl . Mut'a (Temporary marriage)

Does my wife need to know if I want to do a Mutah marriage with another girl?

It not allowed to do Mut'ah marriage with a female from People of Book (Ahlul Kitab) with out the permission of your Muslim wife.

Wassalam..

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Istikhara . Marriage

Is it compulsory to do Istikhara for marriage? If it comes out negative, can we still do ahead with the marriage?

Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answered 4 years ago

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. It is not obligatory to do an istikhara for marriage and if it comes out negative there is no obligation to act in accordance with it. A person should not take an istikhara unless they are unsure and do not have a preference for a certain outcome.

However, the spirit of istikhara is to seek the best from Allah, so if all of its conditions have been fulfilled the answer a person has been seeking is within the istikhara.

May you always be successful

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