Parents

A parent is a caregiver of the offspring in their own species. In humans, a parent is the caretaker of a child (where "child" refers to offspring, not necessarily age). A biological parent is a person whose gamete resulted in a child, a male through the sperm, and a female through the ovum.

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Parents . Marriage . Conversion to Islam

Can we perform Nikah ourselves without informing our families, considering they disapprove of our relationship due to my age? We both recently converted to Islam and want to marry, but fear my parents' disapproval.

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

Muslim man is allowed to marrying a Muslim woman according to Shariah without the permission of his parents but virgin Muslim girl needs the permission of her father or paternal grandfather for her marriage.

In certain cases when permission is denied or rejected by the father for invalid reasons then she can go ahead with marriage to save herself from sin.
If the girl with whom you want to marry had not been married before but she is sure that her father would refuse your proposal for invalid reason according to Islamic standards, then she can go ahead with the marriage. Wassalam.

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Parents . Islam . Sunni . Girl . Sunni-Shi'a . Marriage . Islamic Culture

How can I persuade my parents, within Shia Islam, that it is permissible for me as a Syed Shia to marry a Sunni Muslim girl from a different cultural background?

You need to take them to an authentic scholar who can explain for the the Islamic rules according to Ahlul Bayt (AS) and tell them that following Ahlul Bayt (AS) is much more important than following the culture or society.

‘Wassalam.

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Parents . Husband . Nikah

Is the Nikah still valid if a girl is married to a man but her parents have prevented her from living with her husband for over 8 years without any valid reason?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

As long as the nikah was done, and talaq has not been recited, she is still considered married.

However, why would her parents prevent her from living with her husband. That is very wrong and must be solved immediately. Either she lives with her husband, or she gets divorced. It is unfair for her to be in this situation.

And Allah knows best

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Parents . Worship . Disobedience . Fard

In case of disobeying parents, does one have to compensate for all obligatory acts of worship they have performed?

Many of our leading Maraaje' of Taqleed say that eldest sin is responsible to compensate the obligatory worship missed by his disobeying parent.

Any other son or daughter or friend or even a paid person can perform such Qadha worship in behalf of the late person.

'Wassalam.

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Children . Lie . Parents . Social Media

Our children are being bombarded on social media with disinformation and crazy conspiracy theories like the earth is flat, vaccines are dangerous and so on. How can we, as good parents, teach them not to believe in such crazy ideas?

We need to teach our children not to believe any claim or idea with out real evidence. Social media is open for facts and lies so we need to verify what we read and not to blindly take what is been published.

‘Wassalam.

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Miscarriage . Pregnancy . Foetus . Human . Parents

If a miscarriage happens very early in the pregnancy, such as at the first month, is the foetus already considered a human being? Will the parents be reunited with it? If not, at what stage of the pregnancy would this be correct?

Yes, the foetus is a human being in the early stages. Parents will be reunited with their miscarriaged children in the Paradise.

'Wassalam.

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Suicide . Children . Heaven . Parents . Death . Sin . Non-Muslims

How can we effectively respond to non-Muslims who claim that Islam promotes child suicide by teaching that all children go to heaven if they die before puberty and their sins are not held against them?

Suicide is a major sin because it is a crime of murder and it is a result of another major sin which is loosing hope from the mercy of Allah. Every believer in Allah should believe in his great mercy, which is much more greater than any difficulty or hardship,people who commit suicide,do so after loosing hope and thinking that their problems have no solution,and by committing suicide they try to run away from the problems this feeling of not hoping the mercy of Allah itself is a major sin.

The fact that sinless children who die during their childhood will go to paradise is a part of the mercy of Allah[THE Exalted]. The most merciful,The most compassionate.

wassalam.

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Parents . Marriage Proposal

How can I sway my parents' opinion if they reject a non-Iraqi suitor due to Scandinavian nationality and not being Arab? Why is there little effort to address this cultural mindset in Arab societies?

Bismihi ta'ala

This is not just an Arab mindset, or limited to any race or nationality. In general, people like to stay within their own culture and background, for many reasons. Shared heritage, preserving culture, easier compatibility, less differences, and so on.

There are studies that say that inter-racial marriages are less stable. I might not necessarily agree with this, but it is definitely more difficult when marrying someone from a different culture, with many challenges.

What I am saying is if your parents are of the opinion that their children should marry within their culture, it does not mean that it is a bad thing. They have their certain understanding of things, and you as their child must respect and honour that. Indeed pleasing your parents and keeping them happy is by far greater than any choice one can make.

Of course, these are discussions that should take place way before you fall in love with someone, and before you become emotionally attached to someone, because if it gets to that stage, you will not be interested in what your parents say, and this will create clash.

Yes, a parent should be flexible, and try to accommodate, and it would be haram and oppressive if the parent refuses to be lenient and cooperate if the son/daughter is completely convinced that this suitor meets all the shar'i, moral and social requirements.

I would say that there is a lot of effort to address these issues of marriage, but maybe not in the way modern society likes to hear. We have to try and keep our concept of marriage as traditionally Islamic as possible, and within the guidelines and guidance of parents and elders, as long as they are shar'i and sensible.

With prayers for your success

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Parents . Sin . God (Allah) . Obedience

What should I do if my parents ask me to do things that contradict Allah's commands, possibly leading to sin? Should I always obey them in both religious and non-religious matters, even when I know what is right?

You have to always keep the respect of your parents but not obey any order which is against the orders of Allah (SWT). The Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) said: No obedience to any creature in the disobedience of The Creator. If you are sure that the order given to you by your parents leads to sinful act, then you must refrain from committing sins.

Wassalam.

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Sunni . Parents . Father . Mut'a (Temporary marriage)

How does one do Mutah with a Sunni who is a virgin and her parents are divorced? Her father isn't really around and hasn't been for some time and her grandfathers have passed away. Whose approval would I need to seek?

Bismihi ta'ala

You will need to seek consent from her father.

Mut'ah is for certain circumstances that would be of benefit, and therefore plans should always be made towards Nikah marriage.

And Allah knows best.

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Parents . Children

In Islamic law, does a parent or guardian have to pay for damages caused by their little child if the owner doesn't forgive, similar to the laws in some countries?

Parents or guardian are not responsible to pay for damages caused by their children if there was no negligence from the parents or the guardian.

'Wassalam.

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Parents . Girl . Marriage

Do I have the authority to decide on my own marriage even if my parents don't approve of the girl I choose, while I believe she is right for me?

As far as the conditions of marriage, only virgin girl requires the approval of her father or paternal Durand father for her marriage. Man does not need approval from his father or mother in his marriage, but it is very important to keep the respect of your parents and avoid hurting their feelings. You as a man are entitled to decide your marriage, without causing any harm or disrespect to your parents. You should try your best to convince them and get their blessings.

Wassalam.